(Closed) Want to stop BC pills, but husband is nervous.

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i told my Fiance i’m stopping bc the day after the wedding! the hormones in the pill causes me difficulties like u have. HOWEVER we dont use condoms because they irritate the hell out of me, so at least u can use those! there are pills that have no hormones in them, which may be an option as well. good luck!

Post # 5
Bee
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence

I stopped taking the pill about half a year into my relationship with Mr. D because it was seriously making me crazy emotional. He actually encouraged me to take that step because it was affecting our relationship, but we some baby fears.

I think the key is to be really open and talk about any concerns you or he has, and be really, really good about using some form of protection if you aren’t ready for kids. If you use other forms of protection properly the odds are still in your favour!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I’m confused. Why is a condom not enough?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I haven’t been on BC for 4 years as they made me so so sick, we haven’t had any issues just using condoms and no babies *knock on wood*.  We do try and avoid the higher risk days though. Honestly I will never ever go back on the pill.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@IAmTheShadow:  once i remember the name i’ll let u know! u could also look into the mini pill, one with no estrogen.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I would start tracking your cycles and show Fiance on paper when the high risk, low risk times are. This should make him more comfortable with the idea.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@IAmTheShadow:  true! if it were so easy to conceive, people wouldn’t being TTC for almost a year ( and that’s with no medical problems!)

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’ve never heard of a hormone free pill, but I think you can get low dose hormone pills…I think Alesse is one of them!

I had Mirena (IUD) and it was an absolute nightmare – I would never do it again.

Do you have regular periods?  Would your husband be more comfortable using a pull-out method?  It is obviously not ideal by any means, but if you were watching your cycle and are regular that might help be extra vigilant at times where you would be more fertile.  

I know that isn’t helpful, but that’s all I’ve got!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yeah, diaphragms just aren’t for me.  It always seemed to be a bit of a mood killer having to stop in the heat of the moment, KWIM?

I would use condoms and the pull-out method (if he is ultra paranoid) for at least the first few months after you go off of the pills.  I do not know how long it will take your body to re-regulate after coming off of the pills, but once it does you will have a better idea of when you ovulate (which is when you are the most fertile).

I know that there are ovulation kits too, so maybe that would be an option for you to figure out when you’re more likely to get pregnant?

Post # 16
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Busy bee

You can put the diaphragm in hours ahead of the time when you’re actually going to have sex. I know that doesn’t necessarily work with spontaneous moments, but if you know you’ll be getting it on, at least you know you can have it in ahead of time.

 

I’ve heard some really good things about Mirena, so @ViaMinorViator: I’m actually kind of wondering what problems you had with it.

 

@IAmTheShadow:  If, after you have your first child, you want to do non-hormonal BC and also don’t want your husband to get a vasectomy yet, you can look into the Paragard IUD, but that might make your periods/cramping worse.

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