Want to try for second child but husband doesn't

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 76
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Helper bee

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limeandlemon :  A pet is indeed a great idea. I hope you and your husband are doing well after the stress you’ve both dealt with since this discussion about a second child came up.

Post # 77
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Sugar Beekeeper
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hispanicimpressions :  

So true, Bee, so true.

I was an only child and the whole sib thing was never on my radar.  I just didn’t think about it one way or another.  I was definitely not *lonely*; that’s actually quite condescending. We can be very good at keeping our own company, which is one heck of a valuable life skill.

Having a second child for the benefit of the first sounds wrong to me.  The second child is not a pet for the first.

Hasn’t anyone else ever known sibs who wanted no part of each other?

Having another baby because the parents truly want another child is exactly right.  But, in the misguided notion that it’s *better* for the only kid, just no.

And, while we’re all here, what is this anti therapy posturing that goes on around here?  I don’t like to recommend therapy for everything, but . . .

Way to destigmatize.  It takes enormous strength to reach out for help.  And, you do know that some people seek counseling for personal growth, right?

Post # 79
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Helper bee

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limeandlemon :  That’s encouraging, Bee. Second child or no second child, it is imperative that he is able to talk about what he went through when your first child was born without reliving the trauma in his mind. This will eventually help him in having conversations about future children and discuss whether he wants them or not without feeling distressed or anxious. 

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