Post # 1
I didn’t know how to quite word the title, but this isn’t the type of thread you’re probably thinking it’s going to be. i’m going to be a bridesmaid in a good friends wedding May 2013. I know that she would be happy for me and completely fine if I were to get pregnant.
Now, I would like to start TTC in the next 2 months or so. However, I have a lot of medical issues that either could make it difficult to conceive, or to carry full term. With that said, I don’t want to tell anyone (not even our families) that we are trying, or that we have conceived until after 4 months at least.
Now, in any other medical situation I would tell my friend that it’s possible I’m going to be pregnant for her wedding. She has her heart set on the new Enzoani Love bridesmaid line, which would not be very forgiving if I were to be pregnant. The dresses are going to cost $300-$400.
Now, how do I go about this? Do I just order the dress in my current size and say nothing? I just feel like it would be an extraordinary amount of money to be out of if I did end up pregnant. I can’t imagine those dresses are easy to tailor to a big belly.
What do you girls think?
Post # 3
good luck and babydust to your ttcing. in regards to the dress, i would buy it, and if you do end up conceiving, sell it on a preowned dress site, you can probably sell it for half to 3 quarters of the money spent, and then buy yourself a more fitting smock? sorry if thats not much help
Post # 4
Good luck TTC! I just posted on another thread about this. My wedding is in March and my sister is going to start TTC soon (doesn’t want to be too pregnant for the wedding but also doesn’t want to be in 1st trimester either!) She is holding off ordering her dress until the latest time possible (bridal salon says November is cut off – 4 months before wedding for ordering and alterations). That way she will have a better idea of if she is or is not prego or just how prego she might be at the wedding! Then, depending on that she will order the dress 1 or 2 sizes bigger. All salons I have been to say that pretty much any dress will be fine to be altered to accommodate a belly (so don’t worry about having to stick with an empire waisted dress or anything). Unless, you’re going to be on the verge of bursting.
Try on dresses with the baby bump pillow salons have – you’ll get a better idea.
Post # 5
@MrsWBS: Thanks! I still want to avoid telling people until the 4th month if we were to get pregnant, so it still might be kind of difficult. But definitely good to know they can alter most dresses!
Post # 6
I was in a similar situation as you. The bride knew from conversation prior to her engagement that I was going to TTC shortly after my wedding, but I’m not sure it was fresh in her mind when she asked me to be a bridesmaid. In any case, I took into consideration that I could be 16 wks pregnant for her wedding if I conceived right away and ordered my dress accordingly. I would’ve had the dress altered to fit if I didn’t conceive. She never asked why I ordered 4 sizes up, but I would’ve told her if she did. She’s the type of friend that’d be supportive, so I didn’t make it a point to bring it up.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
The dress probably doesn’t need to be ordered until January, maybe February, and if you find out you are pregnant before that, you will have to talk to the bride in confidence about you getting a different dress because you will be visibly pregnant by May. If you aren’t pregnant by then, you would be 4-5 months pregnant at the wedding if you immediately got pregnant. That’s where I am right now, and I can wear a lot of the same dresses as before still, so you could just order the dress a bit big and have it altered accordingly when it comes depending on whether you are or are not pregnant.
Post # 8
Find out from the bride when the absolute order deadline for the dress will be. Once that gets close, you can re-evaluate your current and projected size, and take it from there.
Post # 9
@mrsSonthebeach: Awesome, this makes me feel a lot better.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
You could also talk to the store when the dresses are ordered, if you’re pregnant at that time, to see what sort of exchange policy they have.
Post # 11
Update: She has decided to have mis-matched bridesmaids and we can choose our own dresses! Yayyyy! Now I have to find a teal or turquoise dress that I can (hopefully) grow into!