(Closed) Wanted: the thoughts of young mommies

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m 24 and have a 2 month old.. finances are a bit tight now, to get my 12 weeks of maternity leave I’m taking 6 weeks unpaid, but we’re making it work. We got married at 23 and heard a lot of the same stuff, don’t get tied down too early blah blah.. I think that you can do what you want to with a husband (& baby) if you want. If you’re in good shape financially then I see no reason to wait, if you’re emotionally ready ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Okay  DH and I had our baby when we were 21 he is 18 months now. Finances were tight in the begining, but thats about it. It will change your life, and you wont find puke and poop, and drool  quite as gross anymore LOL but I dont regret having him when we were young. We are in a good place right now and I am happy that we have someone to share that with! He made us both want to work harder you know? The tough thing when you are young is if you have friends that dont get it and are still in their drink evey night, no responsiblity party phase. We are luck enought to have grerat friends and family, but I know a lot of young moms that struggle with that! I think if you and your husband are in a good place and you want to TTC go for it!

Post # 5
4824 posts
Honey bee

You have to do what is right for you. I think 25 is a fine age to have a kid. 

When peope say an age is too young, it comes out of experience either with themselves, friends or statistics so even though it can hurt, they usually dont mean to be malicious.

Just make sure you and your husband not only have money and logistics planned to make it as easy as possible, but more important you two have had time to be a husband and wife, to travel or to do whatever it is you want to do. Because once the baby comes all that becomes very low priority and for many people, though not all, those things stop happening for a very long time.

I have friends who had babies young. They would not change their kids for anything, but they would love to be able to have had more time before having them. However, I am talking 18, 21, 22. Not 25.

Post # 8
4824 posts
Honey bee

@brideatbeach: I am jealous! Great set up. (not that I want to be a Stay-At-Home Mom actually) but its great you will both be around a lot.

Good luck.

I think 25 is an odd age. Some people are well established (I was too) and others are just beginning their career or have yet to figure out what they want to do.

Post # 9
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I will be 24 when my baby is born in March. Yeah, I do kind of feel like I may be a bit young… but Darling Husband and I are established, married and financially stable even with me going to be a Stay-At-Home Mom for a while. If it feels right, do it.

Post # 11
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Granted I’m not a under 25 mom to be. I’m 29 and expecting our first. But we always feel that had we not waited so long for marriage we would easily have 1 or 2 kids by now.

I really do feel age is a relative number. Some are so mature at 21 while others are still immature at 30.

If you are emtionally ready and have the financial means to make a baby work, then why not? Don’t let a number OR the opinions of others affect you and your husband’s plans. Everyone has a different agenda, a different goal, do what’s right for you and your husband and that future baby. That’s it.


Post # 12
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Darling Husband and I were 24 when Dirty Delete was born and yes things changed and were difficult in the beginning (after all you are taking care of another little human) BUT I wouldn’t change it for the world, I would do it all over again, if you both are ready then I say go for it, believe me things will be tight but you will do everything to make it work for your LO, good luck!

Post # 14
5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m 26 and have a 7 y/o son and am currently expecting my 2nd (DH’s 1st…. he’s 21). I couldn’t imagine waiting till 30 to start having kids… Infact I’m on the other end and want to be done having all our kiddos BEFORE 35. AND Darling Husband is uber excited and he’s even younger.

As long as you and your hubby are ready emotionally, financially, and relationally, I wouldn’t worry about what others opinions are. =)

Post # 15
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

yeah, super jealous 30 something here.  we initially wanted to have kids at 26, but the economic implosion got in the way and we are still recovering.  Have your kids while the money is good–don’t wait.  as someone who made it to the other side of their twenties without kids, you will not miss anything by starting your family a few years earlier than you initially planned. 

Post # 16
2889 posts
Sugar bee

Sicne college, I’ve also looked at 30 as the ideal tie to start a family. Currently I’m 28 and since getting married, have thought often about starting a family before 30. However, for me the question is quickly answered when I look at our life and imagine how a child would fit in. I can’t see a child in our current lifestyle as we are both working long hours toward building a career and enjoying having income to take nice vacations and weekend trips. We like to go out to dinner and spend time with friends (none of our local friends have kids). Of course you and your husband know when the timing is right for you but it’s helpful to look at a week and see how much of what you are doing could be done with kids and if you are willing to drastically change your life at this point. Don’t get me wrong, I know I want kids and will need to change something but I think it’s okay to take a few more years for us before adding babies to the mix. 

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