(Closed) Wanting a marriage equality statement in our ceremony, however BM is religious..

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 76
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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kraykitty:  She gets her views and you get yours. I’m assuming that she is mature enough to understand that. What will she really say? We can’t be friends because you believe in marriage equality? Personally, I wouldn’t want a friend who doesn’t believe in it! 

Post # 77
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Honey bee

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pickles325:  

I suppose we could use another word.

The entire point of this discussion is a “should I say something or should I not” choice. She knows right now that something might be a problem later on at the ceremony. So, now or then?

I vote now, so to avoid any unknown complications happening then.

 

 

eta: I don’t mean to sound simplistic, but, to me, is just kinda boils down to simple things in how I relate with my loved ones.   

 

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 3 months ago by NFLwidow.
Post # 78
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You have the wedding that you want. If Ms. Holier than though takes issue with it, she can take her bigoted ass elsewhere.

Post # 79
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Thou…, not though. I seriously hate spellcheck

Post # 80
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Honey bee

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Glenda_the_good_witch:  

I seriously crack myself up with some of my own typos and then how the auto-correct makes them even more comical!

 

But, back to your point, let’s consider this: you have your wedding, invite several friends who may be zealous about certain things, and then proceed to incorporate some of those things, even subtly, into your celebrations, because, hey, you want them incorporated, and if they don’t like it then they can just deal with it. But what if the manner in which they cope with it isn’t to your liking? Do you then have any cause to complain, since, hey, you set up the event on a quid pro quo basis?

Post # 81
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well, they can act like adults or leave. Simple as that. I wouldn’t consider not having my wedding the way that I wanted it just because of this. Btw I don’t agree with most of the things that ppl do at events but I do not have that right to bitch about it.

Post # 82
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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pickles325:  <— what she said, all of it.

Post # 83
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Honey bee

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Glenda_the_good_witch: 

OKay, they can act like adults or leave. So, imagine that you have a Bridesmaid or Best Man who feels blindsided by a ceremonial statement, and despite her shock she calmly hands her bouquet to you and then walks off down the aisle in the middle of your wedding. You would prefer that than to the prospect of simply informing her that the statement will be said, so that she either 1) isn’t shocked at the time or 2) can calmly decline to stand with you before the event?

 

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