- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I suppose we could use another word.
The entire point of this discussion is a “should I say something or should I not” choice. She knows right now that something might be a problem later on at the ceremony. So, now or then?
I vote now, so to avoid any unknown complications happening then.
eta: I don’t mean to sound simplistic, but, to me, is just kinda boils down to simple things in how I relate with my loved ones.
You have the wedding that you want. If Ms. Holier than though takes issue with it, she can take her bigoted ass elsewhere.
Thou…, not though. I seriously hate spellcheck
I seriously crack myself up with some of my own typos and then how the auto-correct makes them even more comical!
But, back to your point, let’s consider this: you have your wedding, invite several friends who may be zealous about certain things, and then proceed to incorporate some of those things, even subtly, into your celebrations, because, hey, you want them incorporated, and if they don’t like it then they can just deal with it. But what if the manner in which they cope with it isn’t to your liking? Do you then have any cause to complain, since, hey, you set up the event on a quid pro quo basis?
Well, they can act like adults or leave. Simple as that. I wouldn’t consider not having my wedding the way that I wanted it just because of this. Btw I don’t agree with most of the things that ppl do at events but I do not have that right to bitch about it.
OKay, they can act like adults or leave. So, imagine that you have a Bridesmaid or Best Man who feels blindsided by a ceremonial statement, and despite her shock she calmly hands her bouquet to you and then walks off down the aisle in the middle of your wedding. You would prefer that than to the prospect of simply informing her that the statement will be said, so that she either 1) isn’t shocked at the time or 2) can calmly decline to stand with you before the event?
And for your second response : Thanks, again lol. We don’t see it as a political statement or a big deal.
Ok, after taking in all of everyone’s advise and having some time to digest it, I think the best thing for me to do is to discuss this with my Bridesmaid or Best Man. I’m choosing to do this out of respect for our friendship. I had never even contemplated that if this is truly something she feels strongly against, that she may not want to stand and be apart of our wedding party, and I do not want her to feel as though I have “tricked” her into standing for something she does not. However, I will not be saying anything until Fiance and I sit down and work out the wording we wish to use, so that way there is no confusion as to what’s being said and that it is being said on behalf of US, no one else.
Thank you again to everyone who has taken time out of their day to respond and share their point of view.
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