Post # 1
I’m just going to Vent here really quick–that and i want other’s take on this—
I am a nurse. I have a friend who i went to nursing school with who is 36 weeks pregnant. Ever since week 32 so has been posting about how miserable she is pregnant and all these “home remedies” she is trying to cause early labor. Just the basic old wives tales such as, drink castor oil, drive down bumpy dirt roads, Spicy food…etc.
It is SO annoying to see her post every hour how ready she is for her baby to be born because she needs some “down time away from all the kids (she has 4 others) and a jack and coke.”
I believe that in most cases the baby will come when the baby is ready to come. Just because the MD says you are 38 weeks does’t mean you are actually 38 weeks.. you may be 36–It’s based on when you ovulated and when the egg implanted.
You planned and tried for this baby. You posted on facebook every other day how you and your husband were trying to a baby. Yet now you have it and you want to complain daily about being pregnant.
I would LOVE to have the big swollen belly, feet and legs. I would love to have heartburn. and i would LOVE for my baby to stay every since second of the 40 weeks because i want them to grow to be all they can be.
Do you think it’s okay to be induced or try to induce yourself just because you are sick of being pregnant?
Post # 3
@ashleyr0512: I’m not trying any of that stuff until 39 weeks. While I do understand her aches and pains, I don’t go around FB’ing them, because I know I have friends that have recently had miscarriages or are having trouble TTC and I don’t want to seem unappreciative or ungrateful. I know that I did post about how I would really enjoy a glass of wine, but I’m not about to talk about how swollen I am, how uncomfortable I am, or how terrible sleep is. It’s not fun, but the end is in sight.
Post # 5
I’m with you, at least for now. I’m 6 weeks pregnant today, so we’ll see how I feel in another 34. However…
A friend of mine had her first child, a son, almost two years ago. As she was nearing her due date, everyone kept asking her, “When is the baby coming?!” The questions never stopped. Eventually she posted a status on Facebook saying something along the lines of, “I will let all of you know when there is news to share. In the meantime, I’m just enjoying have [baby] all to myself for these last precious moments.”
Fast forward to a few months ago, and another one of our friends had her first child, a daughter. Similarly, everyone kept asking, “Where’s the baby?!” But this friend was just like your co-worker — she responded to all of those posts (and created her own statuses) with messages about how she wishes the baby would just come out already, and all of the things she was trying to induce labor.
OF COURSE meeting your baby is so exciting, and you can’t wait for it to happen. I feel that way now! Like HOW am I supposed to wait 34 more weeks?! And sure, labor is scary, so you just want it to be over with already. But, this is one of those times where you just have to be patient. Let nature take its course. And, the longer your lil munchkin cooks in there, the more developed and healthier it is likely to be when he or she finally is born! Never, ever would I intentionally disrupt my child’s in-utero development to meet him/her sooner! The health of my baby is my #1 priority, and we’ll meet the baby as soon as it’s ready to greet us!
Post # 6
@ashleyr0512: I try not to judge too much, not having been pregnant myself, but I’ve had friends post similar things and I does bother me. I can understand being uncomfortable and ready to meet your baby. I really can’t understand trying to jump-start labor when your body isn’t ready – let that bun bake as long as it needs!
Post # 7
@ashleyr0512: I have never been pregnant, so I can’t speak from experience. With the stuff I hear from my sister and how absolutely MISERABLE she was (lived in a tiny shack, no A/C middle of summer in a dessert), I can see why a woman would want to give birth early and complain about being miserable all the time. With that said, I hope when I’m in the later weeks of a pregnancy, I’ll keep my whits about me and remember to do what is best for the baby and not my comfort.
Post # 8
Well, I theoretically want them to cook as long as possible, but honestly being pregnant with twins in 93 degree weather (no ac anywhere since they don’t normally need it in England) with a fractured rib, sleepless nights and severe back pain, I’d say I’m pretty miserable at 32 weeks. If she’s as uncomfortable as I am, I can understand wanting a baby to just come out already! She probably doesn’t actually mean it, though, right?
Post # 9
New research (that I will go find and post shortly) shows there is actually important brain development that occurs right up until that 40 week mark, maybe even a little later! I know that people are miserable and I am sure I will be the closer I get to my due date, too, but it is important to let those babies cook as long as possible up until at least 40 weeks! Some come earlier on their own and that obviously can’t be prevented sometimes, but it is a major pet peeve of mine when women hit that “magical” 37 weeks and think OMG I AM FULL TERM I WANT THIS BABY OUT RIGHT NOW!!! They need to stop calling 37 weeks “full term” and just tell people that once they have exceeded their due date, they can start to get a little antsy, maybe. Argh. They give you a “due date” for a reason, and it’s not at 37 weeks for a reason, too. True that babies have way less respiratory problems, etc. in the short term when born at 37 weeks or a little after, but I’m pretty sure the new study showed that overall, kids born closer to 40 weeks are doing better intellectually in the long term. Off to find that study….
ETA: all that stuff to “bring on labor” sounds like a lot of work. I don’t plan on doing any of it. Have sex? It hurts to have sex right now at 31 weeks! Eat spicy food? I can’t even do that now without being up all night with miserable heartburn! Haha! I’m hoping my baby boy stays put until his very due date or after. 🙂
Post # 10
Eh. I can see both sides. I had a pretty easy pregnancy and I was still pretty swollen and uncomfortable at the end. By the end of week 38, I was ready to be done. DH and I tried sex to induce labor and I had my baby the next day, at 39 weeks exactly. Maybe it was coincidence – either way, I was thrilled.
I would never schedule an induction just because I was sick of being pregnant but I don’t see any harm in trying a few safe techniques at home to speed things up.
Post # 11
Well here’s a news article on it, and even though it isn’t a reliable research article, it makes some good points. I will keep working on finding the actual reasearch to back up their statements…
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Post # 13
I understand being 40 weeks.. but it’s driving me crazy.. she’s been atempting to jump start labor since she was 32 weeks. I guess a part of me is just soo jealous. I want all that uncomfortable pain as my husband and i are TTC. But really, you want your baby to hurry up and come so you can go party and drink again?
Post # 14
Ugh, it’s frustrating just reading that. I don’t think women should try home remedies until they’re at least 37 weeks. Anything earlier is not okay IMO. I think about all the development that baby has left to do and it’s just selfish.
Post # 16
Meh. I’d just be annoyed at the overshare. Even posting on FB that you’re trying for a baby is overshare in my opinion (ever check out the STFU parents blog?). Posting that you’re pregnant, when your due date is, and the baby’s sex are all totally fine, as are a couple complaints or funny comments/anecdotes about pregnancy. Constant updates about ANYTHING, whether a pic of your awesome dinner or how your day is going or the dump you just took all annoy me. Also, I find it unlikely that any of those home remedies will actually bring on labor; if she was scheduling a C-section or induction just because she’s sick of being preggo at 36 weeks then that would be another story!