(Closed) Wanting guest to arrive early to the ceremony?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
4674 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I put on my invites ‘ceremony starts proptly at 2:30’.  Nobody walked in late that I noticed (of course, it was outside!) If you must I would put 5 or 10 minutes early, but not a half an hour!  if your guests show up early, which most will, they will be sitting around for a very long time waiting for things to start! 

Post # 18
3637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

It really depends on why you want them to be early. If it is because something is happening, like a pre-wedding ring warming or photo of all the guests or cocktails or something then put:

1:30 for a 2pm start. 

But if it’s just because you don’t want them to be late, then you can only put the actual start time. Otherwise people will be very annoyed that the are cooling their heels for 30mins with nothing to do because you thought that they’d be late.

People will be late. As long as it’s not the groom, your parents or you, then it doesn’t really matter. (and even then you just wait for the important people :P) 


Post # 19
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

People are ALWAYS late to weddings because they “never start on time”. Guess what-they never start on time because of LATE guests!!

Put 1:30 to be safe, the last thing you want is to be stressed out up until the last minute before you walk. If guests don’t like waiting a little longer they can suck it. It’s YOUR day! Or, just put 2 on the invites and plan to start at 2:15. 

Post # 20
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We had a Destination Wedding in Vegas.  The chapel we got married in told us that the ceremony started at such and such time and the doors would shut at that time.  The only ones allowed to be late were the bride/groom and only up to 15 minutes or they would cancel the entire thing. 

We posted on our wedding website the ceremony start time and mentioned that the doors would be closed at that time and they wouldn’t let anyone in.  We had absolutely no problem with anyone showing up late.  We DID put that they needed to be there 30 minutes beforehand.  But of course, nobody could go into the chapel until 5 minutes prior. 

Post # 21
2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

We’re putting something on our website like

Doors open at 1:30, close at 1:58

Ceremony starts at 2:30.

Because I hate being late. Its one of, it not my biggest, pet peeve. And I am starting my wedding on time, and closing the doors and not letting people in until after my walk and made it to the front. And even if it’s my dear old granny, she is sitting in the back. I hate late people so much. I wanted to put it on my invite, but I was told it was rude haha. So we’re putting “Please be seated by 1:45 PM for the start of the ceremony” on the invite. 

Post # 22
7638 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@cirk:  You’re asking people to be seated 45 minutes before the ceremony starts??

Post # 23
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We put 4pm on our invitations and planned to start the ceremony at 4:20.  Everything went according to schedule.

Post # 24
2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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@paula1248:  that was actually a typo haha. It should be 2:00 start, not 2:30.

So we’re asking people to be in their seats 15 minutes early so we can start right on time. Doors will open half an hour early though.

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