(Closed) Wanting SOME support

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m sorry!  Wedding planning is stressful enough, especially when you feel like you’re in it alone!  I know people always say that all us bride-to-bes can talk about is wedding, wedding, wedding, but we have a lot to plan and we need people to bounce ideas off of!  I think your friends will come around.  Just to be sure to ask them how they’re doing too!  

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Just remember…they can never experience the joy in your heart that you and your Fiance have, they can have joy for you, but it’s not the same.

I’ve been a bride before (hey, I’m an encore) and a bridesmaid so many times that I think I own more dresses than the chick in 27 dresses.

We’re here and here’s a hug from me!!!!! ((Mrs. Starfish)) 

 

Post # 6
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483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Mrs. Starfish-feel free to tap us, your weddingbee honorary bms ๐Ÿ™‚  what part are you planning right now???? do you already have colors and venue and invitation ideas?  i actually designed my sister’s invitations and they turned out beautifully ๐Ÿ™‚ Let us know!!! :))))) PM me if you need anything from my end of the country!

Post # 7
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2641 posts
Sugar bee

I’m sorry.  That does stink.  You were supportive of them.  And perhaps (thinking how I would be) it hasn’t always been super easy.  And no help in return.  I could tell you that they probably are busy, especially if they have their own families.  But I think it’s kind of stinky they can’t be there for you.

(Hugs.)

 

Post # 8
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree that weddingbee is a great substitute for your bridesmaids who have a lot going on in their own lives and just don’t get it.  I also found it helpful to start a blog when I was bursting with excitement and driving my fiance nuts.  Just the idea that I’m sharing (with my 10 daily readers, including myself) was enough to feel more validated.

 Sorry your girls aren’t pulling through the way you hoped they would, but I hope you’re feeling a little better! 

Post # 9
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15 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

     Oh sweetie!  I feel the same way!  I know exactly what you’re going through. 

     My Best friend is suddenly never online anymore, although, has "lived" on the interbet for more than 10 years.  Also never has anything more to say than, "that’s nice" when I bounce things off of her… I’m starting to get fed up since I was the one that kept her sane during her whole planning process for 2 1/2 years!  I was the one that drove 5 hours after work on night just to be with her, just because she had a bad week… I’ve never gotten any of that.

     My other best friend just got married in Vegas, and personally made, mailed, and took care of her announcements, invites, and reception… I didn’t so much as get a Thank You or anything… I work with this girl and can’t even get her to listen for 5 seconds about my wedding, rather than her "more important" life.

     I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to make all that about me… Anyway, I know what you’re going through, and I think that’s why we’re so drawn to websites like these… It’s still not the same though, sometimes you’d like to look someone in the face while they reply, or get that congratulations hug when you’ve accomplished something. It will be alright, just use this as your "backboard" and start bouncin’! ๐Ÿ™‚  Good luck, and best wishes!

Post # 10
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2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

That’s why I am so dependent on weddingbee – there has been very little involvement from my bridesmaids or my Maid/Matron of Honor. Very little excitement either. I have done 99.9% of the wedding planning by my lonesome. I am so fed up that at this point, I really don’t care if they even show up. I am biting my tongue, but they better not ask me for any help should they get married beause I won’t and I will tell them exactly why.

Post # 12
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2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

*HUGS* I’m sorry you’re not seeing much excitement from your friends.

Post # 13
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Have you gone bridesmaid dress shopping yet? Maybe that will get them motivated. You also have to remember that summertime’s a crazy time for people, maybe by fall they’ll be more into helping out. Good luck! We are always here for you!

Post # 14
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

I’m so sorry! ((BIG BEE HUGS))

At least you know you can always come here and we’ll be excited for you! Congrats on your engagement ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

aww.. i’m sorry. =(. have you talked to them about it? it’s always hard when you feel like you’re doing things by yourself. i agree with everyone else, on the bright side, at least you have weddingbee to turn to =D

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