(Closed) wanting to elope

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 2
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Newbee

It’s elope. And you have only been engaged for 2 weeks. Situations will change with time. What’s the rush?

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

So your fiance has no job/income, you’re currently taking care of everything, and would need a loan simply to elope? Is it absolutely mandatory that you get married immediately? Would it not be better to wait until both of you are in a better place financially then plan the day you want? I don’t think its wise for anyone to need a loan for this, especially since there’s only one income at the moment.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Elope. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Why rush? Wait, and save. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

DON’T Take out a loan for your wedding. Either wait until you can afford it outright or elope. You do not know when you could pay back the loan so you will likely have to pay tons of interest on it.  Money is the #1 cause of divorce. Don’t start your marriage off with such a huge financial burden hanging over your heads.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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myabi2796 :  I still would not take out the loan especially with him being unemployed.  What about doing a small courthouse wedding with your immediate family and maybe invite them out y for dinner after?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Why the rush? Don’t take out a loan. Do not get in debt to have a wedding, it’s a really bad way to start a marriage. I wouldn’t even consider getting married until your fiancé is back on his feet and has a job. Then have the wedding you can afford. Either elope or have a small intimate wedding, or save until you can have what you want. There’s no hurry.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

A year out with no money and you’re considering taking out a loan? Sounds like a massive rush to me. Not to mention that your fiancé won’t elope but wants to get married, so YOU have to foot the bill on your lonesome income? What planet is he on? No way. A year is not enough time in this case. You need to see if this business venture is successful first, because there is always a chance that it won’t be. Honestly, if you’re not eloping and you’re not having a small wedding, don’t get married in a year. You need to start paying for things as you book them and it doesn’t sound like you can afford it. Let your fiancé get back on his feet. It doesn’t sound like you’re ready.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I just think your fiancé sounds mildly delusional, like some child who just wants wants wants. He wants a big wedding, He nor his family will contribute zip all to the wedding, He wants You to plan this entire extravaganza. He doesn’t have a job. He has no problem with taking out a Loan for a one day event (would that be in only your name then, since he doesn’t have a job?). Just wow.

And no. No no no no no. Is how I would feel about that. 

Postpone for five years, if things are golden financially before then by all means get planning within a budget you can both jointly afford, and if he still wants the traditional thing then, he sure as anything should be part of Planning it?!

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

I think you and your fiance need to focus on rebuilding your finances before marriage. 

 

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