Post # 1
This past weekend was my bachelorette party and it was at a piano bar. One of my bridesmaids was offended by what one of the pianists said and decided to throw water on him and get kicked out. Then, many of my other friends run after her to see if she’s ok. I go down there and she proceeds to cuss me out and tell me she doesn’t want to be part of the wedding. I am sure she was feeling attacked, but this really hurt my feelings. We talked on the phone and she just can’t take responsibility. I gave her the option to be in the wedding and she said she would but her tone of voice was like she is doing me a favor. I am seriously considering calling her up and telling her I don’t want her to be a bridesmaid because of how she treated me and I just don’t want to deal with it because I have 5 other bridesmaids that respect me and would NEVER treat me that way. I am getting married in less than a month.
Post # 3
I’d ask her to step down. It seems like she relinqued her desire to be in it when all the drama happened.
Send her a message.. “I’ve thought it over.. and”
Post # 4
If you’re done being friends with her, then go ahead and ask her to step down. Because to ask someone to step down as a bridesmaid and expect them to still show up at your wedding and be happy for you, I think that’s a lot to ask. If you’d still like to salvage the relationship with her, you should be a friend and try to talk to her about the way she made you feel.
If someone asked me to step down from their bridal party, I would wash my hands of that relationship.
Post # 5
@yellowsunshine123: I’m curious – what did the pianist say to her? Even if it was something bad, obviously she shouldn’t be nasty to you, but I could understand her being upset in the heat of the moment.
Post # 6
If she truly doesn’t want to be a bridesmaid anymore, that’s on her. But make sure you talk to her again before you make the decision. Sometimes people say things they don’t really mean when they are really hurt and angry.