Wanting to stop buying/giving/receiving gifts….

posted 2 years ago in Holidays
Post # 31
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Sugar bee

We only gift the little kids–we write cheks for their college fund.  As for us, we have everything we could ever want, so we each pick a charity and give.

Post # 32
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Sugar bee

Totally! I have 3 sisters, 2 brothers in law, a husband, 5 nieces and nephews.. and that’s just on MY side (husband’s side has 4 parents and 4 siblings)

Once my two sisters were married we switched to doing ‘secret’ santa (except not a secret) with a price limit. This year we just cut that out completely and don’t do gifts for each other, just for the kids. Instead we’re going to organize a night out for all of us and put the money towards that. 

Adults are so particular that we’d either just end up giving each other gift cards, or giving each other things we didn’t want/need. We put our money towards spending time together and towards the kids now. 

Post # 33
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am one of those people who just does not enjoy buying gifts. I can NEVER think of what to get people.

My parents keep things in chcek, they aren’t big on going overboard for Christmas. My mom did when we were growing up but not anymore. My Mother-In-Law is all about Christmas, and we’d have a literal present mountain around the tree – and Darling Husband says it was like that growing up too.

Last year we did “no Christmas” because Darling Husband and I foot the majority of the bills for MIL’s cancer treatments. We just felt there was no point in doing gifts when if we’re being honest, a good 80% of the gifts we get are not anything we need.

People tend to find this really odd, but Darling Husband and I rarely do gifts for any occasion. The only time we do is if someone thinks of something really good to get the other person…but it’s not expected that you reciprocate. For example, one year for our anniversary Darling Husband got me a full spa day because it had just been a super stressful/busy summer for me with work. Another year for his birthday I bought him a new bike because he’d been talking about it. Both times the recipiant didn’t give a gift. We’ve been together almost 18 years, married 5. That’s a lot of holidays worth of gift giving.

We told all our family again this year, no gifts. We are expecting our first baby and told everyone we’d just much rather then buy something for the baby off the registry than waste money on gifts for us.

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