Wanting to upgrade my ring…

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Do you have a picture?  I wonder if you can remake your engagement ring into a band you will wear along with your wedding set to preserve the sentiment. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

Can you just change out the stone with a better quality one? That’s a lot cheaper and very easy for a jeweler to do.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I’d just swap the stone. You have a lovely ring.

Post # 7
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Newbee

I agree with @northwinds, you might be able to swap out the center stone! Alternatively, if you want a new ring all together, you could always get your original center stone made into a necklace or right hand ring so you can continue wearing it for the sentimental value.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Holy moley I was expecting something else, that is very pretty!  Maybe you can swap the stone and eliminate one row of halo, if possible?  Or just get a new solitaire and make the shell of the halo into a simple eternity band with the same metal.  Might be a good approach and compromise for your husband.  

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Most jewelers will give you a trade-in on the original stone when you get a different one to replace it, which makes the purchase of the new one that you will be swapping even less money. So when you go look at stones to make the swap, you can check on that.

You mentioned you love everything about the ring except the flawed center stone, so I would do the swap rather than get a whole new ring, since your ring is beautiful and all you need is a stone that won’t bother you. This way the sentiment stays intact. 🙂

Along the way I learned that loose stones are always a better way to buy anyway—pick the setting, pick the stone—gets you better quality for less money.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - victoria educational gardens

Beautiful ring! I agree with the others, just upgrade your center diamond.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I would just wap the diamond since you love the setting. it’s down to the way you and your husband work things but I think you should pay for the upgrade since you picked the original and it’s only been 2 years.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I would upgrade the center stone. That’s what I want to do some day with mine. (I got mine at Kay’s.) 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I would keep the original as is and just get a new ring. If it’s structurally sound you may find you still want to wear the orignal from time to time. And if you’re sentimental you may regret replacing the stone or dismantling the original. I’ve had the same problem, 1st engagement ring was on the lower quality side although it’s beautiful and I love it, too much pavé to risk so I wear it occasionally when I’m not working because I’m hard on my hands. I now have an anniversary ring and wear that most of the time until I get my plain (platinum or yellow gold) wedding band. Get what’s comfortable for you and congrats on your marriage! 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sooo… I have had several different diamonds and setting in the 7 years I have been married, finances change, wants change, priorities change. I wasn’t granted my dream ring when we got engaged due to finances and other life issues. Instead of my husband buying me birthday and Christmas gifts he would “give” me money towards an upgrade, so in essence that was my gift for the yearly holidays all wrapped up in one. I sold an LV bag my husband got me one year simply because I wanted to upgrade center stone and the bag not being practical for me. Then I sold an LV wallet to put towards a band.  My husband was not offended. Our wants in life change. I bought him a movado several years ago and he rarely wore it, he got pretty heavy into a hobby which just so happens to be a little pricey, I told him to sell his movado and a designer wallet I had purchased for him. He thought I would be so offended so he never even thought of doing that but I truly wasn’t. All I wanted was for him to have things in life that made him happy. We all work hard and take care of business and sacrifice, the last thing I want is guilt and pressure over “items”. My mom has upgraded her ring many times and her and my dad have been married for 35+ years and that is how they do “gifts” its typically one big item for the whole year using “Christmas” or an Anniversary as the reason to buy it. My mom doesn’t surprise my dad with gifts neither does my dad for my mom.  Now if my mom is wanting to upgrade her ring she will show my dad her thoughts and ideas and he of course says he loves it LOL but I think they get involved with each others wants and needs and try their best to accommodate one another.  They are rennovating a home and my dad needed an expensive power tool so that was his “gift” or they had to put in a kitchen that was their big combo purchas that year etc… I think your husband would want, above all, for you to be happy. Now if he says absolutely not, that is the ring I got you from my heart and it will hurt me if you upgrade it, then keep it and sell your bags and save money for a couple years and buy another one you can interchange. Just another option. I am inching my way up to a decent 2 carat center. That is me though. I am not speaking for anyone I am just trying to be supportive. I think if you want a whole new ring and your finances have changed and you can afford to upgrade and are willing to sell a few designer bags I say go for it. Personally I would try and find an independent/custom jeweler so that you can have more options, negotiation ability and more bang for your buck with out having to double your amount spent to upgrade. My first set was from zales absolutely nothing wrong with zales or like establishments, its just harder to negotiate and upgrade, at least with my experience. I wish you the very best and I hope we get to see your upgrade if you choose to do so. Your current ring is beautiful. But don’t hang on to it if you don’t like it. when I wanted to upgrade my diamond the first time I just told my husband that I wanted to move up in size and quality and that it was what I wanted for our anniversary.  At that time my upgrade after turning everything in was $500 which for us was a lot of money even for an anniversary gift so it turned into my anniversary and Christmas gift. I also turned in some old gold jewelry I didn’t wear and he seemed perfectly fine with it. Now 7 years later he doesn’t care at all if I trade up or make a lateral move with my ring as long as im happy with it at the time. In fact I have a post up right now asking for advice because I am considering trading my band in, going back to a plain “Tiffany” style solitaire so that I can get a little paid of diamond studs LOL. I don’t wear hardly any jewelry other than some sterling silver pieces, my ring is the one piece of jewelry I take great pride in and LOVE very much. Even though there is not a lot of sentiment with any particular ring I have had, but there is sentiment with having something on my finger that I love. Best of luck. 🙂 

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