(Closed) Warning your parents about a proposal?

posted 10 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think the perfect “warning” is your BF asking your father for your hand in marriage.

Post # 4
3354 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 1900

Have you talked to your bf about if he is going to ask for your parents blessing?  If he sits down and talks to them about wanting to marry you then shouldn’t that be enough notice?  If they really like him then they will be thrilled for you both.  =)

Post # 5
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Agree with PP’s, if the BF is going to ask for your hand, that should give them time to think about it between when he asks and the actual proposal. And, btw, ALMOST CONGRATS πŸ™‚

Post # 6
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wouldn’t – my mom’s surprise when I called to tell her was awesome. πŸ™‚ (My Fiance asked my dad, but asked him not to mention it to my mom because she would tell me, so glad he did that!)

Post # 7
4858 posts
Honey bee

I told my mom ahead of time just to settle her down since we were also in the process of buying a house while our ring was being made and I think it made her feel better to know that we’d be engaged before we moved in (and, although still “living in sin” hahahha, we’d be living in just a little less sin, apparently).

I didn’t tell my Dad in advance, but my Fiance did ask for his blessing (which was like 100% guaranteed since my parents love him).  So, I really only “warned” one of them. πŸ™‚

Post # 9
1033 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I told my parents that my fiance was going to ask for their blessing a few months before he proposed. My dad told me a few weeks before he proposed that he wanted to just give him the permission so that he’ll ask me already! haha!  I told him ‘no, let him ask you.’ My fiance asked him two days before he proposed to me. He showed my parents the ring and everything. Actually, EVERYONE knew I was getting proposed to, but me. 

Post # 11
1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If he’s going to ask their blessing I’d just let him handle it. My Fiance didn’t ask and I wouldn’t have wanted him to anyway, so for me my parents knew we were serious to the point of marriage but the acutal engagement was a slight surprise. It was sort of fun telling my mom though, since she didn’t already know πŸ™‚

Post # 12
3696 posts
Sugar bee

I specifically asked my Fiance NOT to ask my dad for permission so I hinted at the idea to my parents myself. If he’s going to ask, though, I think you’ve got it covered.

Post # 13
1316 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

As soon as SO put a deposit down on my e-ring I gave my parents the heads up so to speak. SO doesn’t know that they know, but they don’t know the when (like me!) it will happen so it should still be a surprised, but they will be aware it’s coming at the same time.

Post # 14
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We were in a similar situation (still in school, so I don’t think my parents thought it was coming in the immediate future). My husband went over to my parents’ house to ask for their blessing before he proposed, and they were so surprised/excited. My mom was so happy she cried. I SO wish I would’ve been there to see it! Haha.

Anyway, he showed them the ring and everything and I had no idea any of it had happened! I think it was a great way for him to start becoming “part of the family” (they all had a secret they were keeping from me together!).

Post # 15
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I wouldn’t tell them youself before the actual engagement.  Having your boyfriend ask for their blessing may be a better way to go.  Perhaps you could have a talk with your mom about “I think he may be the one…” without talking engagement and see how she reacts to ease some of your fears.  πŸ™‚  Besides, popping the question is often a surprise so I don’t think they’ll mind not being “warned” about it.  

We tend to worry too much what our parents will think.  Chances are they’re expecting it sooner or later and are going to be happy for you and supportive.

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