(Closed) was anybody else treated like sh** when they got engaged?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 32
26 posts
  • Wedding: February 2014

Dont worry, my fiance & I experienced the same!

My Mother-In-Law was disapointed that we got engaged because she was expecting my fiances younger brother to get engaged first… 1 year down the track his brother and my MILs favourite gf broke up and its been all like, oh you’re still together and getting married? we were even asked to invite his brothers ex gf to our wedding…

in addition, i lost close girlfriends after we first got engaged because i wouldnt share the details of the cost of my ring… i couldnt share because i didnt know… ugh

my boss at work, wouldnt approve my leave for my honeymoon because she thought i was too young to get married…

totally feelin your pain! were about to get married in 8 weeks time and we’re still copping it as we start to build our first home, a whole 2 hours from his parents!

trust in your own love, and do not let anyone bring you down! at the end of the day, its you and your husband and thats all that matters 🙂

Post # 33
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@brooklyn_bee:  Oh yes.

But look on the bright side – at least your Mother-In-Law acknowledge the ring, the engagement, and the wedding.

Mine gave me the whole “i didnt know you two were enggaed” after we have been engaged for 8 months and planning for a wedding in January.

Along with threatening my Fiance to disown, then really disowning, then calling in 50 times a day to yell at him for deciding to marry me, then swearing me and my parents down via email along with swearing my Fiance down….etc etc etc


Really, you are on the way greener side of this issue.


Post # 34
941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@brooklyn_bee:  Wow.

And a grown man as a picky eater? He will just have to suck it up.. do NOT change your menu plans for him… you should have said “I think  it would be good for him to try new things”

Im sorry bee, this would drive me crazy too.

Post # 35
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Wow. What a horrible bitch.

Post # 36
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

@brooklyn_bee:  That sucks bad…I had similar issues with my ex Mother-In-Law, she wanted nothing to do with the wedding bc my ex was previously married…soooo I guess that means I’m not allowed to enjoy my FIRST marriage

But…this time around…I was divorced so it was my second engagement and I literally CAUGHT my cousins (who are jealous anyways) talking shit to my Dad about him saying yes to my Fiance asking to marry me! Saying “you really need to pressure her and find out why it is that she’s going through with ANOTHER marriage”. First of all, it’s pretty interesting the people who comment on your life when they have nothing to do with it 99% of the time. And second of all, they have no CLUE what I went through with my ex…it was extremely abusive and I was miserable. So why is it that I can’t have another shot at happiness??

People just really amaze me…they can’t be happy for you and it is definitely upsetting to be excited about what should be the happiest time in your life and you can’t be bc others are bringing you down. Not to mention, they are missing when you need them the most but have all sorts of input when it’s unsolicited.

The best thing you can do, is focus on your own happiness and feel bad for them bc obviously their lives are so boring and miserable that they have to talk about yours! Good luck!! xo

Post # 36
31 posts

I would say that the future Mother-In-Law is not your biggest fan.  Partially because it seems she thinks that your engagement was spurred on by the events of your brother’s sibling and his engagement – thinking yours are disingenious.  It would suggest that she isn’t a fan of the timing being the catalyst for your event – thinking its more about competition as opposed to genuine sentiments.  That’s my two cents.

Given that you seem to be stiring up quite the family drama as opposed to keeping things low-key and respecting the family dynamic it would suggest that you are somewhat enjoying the spin on an implicit level.  

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