Post # 1
This might sound silly, but was anyone else nervous about their proposal?
I have known for months now that my partner has a ring and he is planning to propose soon. Before I found out he had a ring, I was silently freaking out in my head about when he would propose/how he would propose and just generally getting impatient at waiting. I chilled out a lot once my partner told me he had a ring a few months ago (turns out he couldn’t wait till whatever date he plans to propose to tell me haha) and haven’t really thought about it since. We are homebodys and I am quite a shy girl (I don’t like attention all on me) but I trusted my partner to not pick a flashy or extravagent proposal.
My man randomly announced to me yesterday that he was taking me out to dinner on Friday night (tomorrow!) which is strange in itself as we normally get take aways rather than eat out or cook. So now, I feel like I have never been this nervous before in all my life! Is this normal? He told me the restaurant he was taking me to this morning and I must admit, I was disappointed in his choice as there was only a couple things off the menu I would choose if forced to and it was a very fancy place. Thankfully, we have an open and honest relationship so I explained that there wasn’t much I could eat etc etc and he changed it to somewhere I would feel much more comfortable at.
I just don’t know why I am so nervous. I know I want to spend the rest of my life with my man, so he is not the issue. Maybe I am just nervous at the thought of a big, flashy proposal? Ah, I don’t know. Someone please tell me this is normal lol. He is a big joker though, he will know that I probably expect the proposal to happen – so no doubt we go out tomorrow, I expect the proposal to happen, it is just dinner and I’ve worked myself up for no reason!
Post # 2
Not really — was too excited!
Also…. am I the only one who keeps thinking this is TheGridMonster? Two bees with the same avatar is trippy.
Post # 3
Nope. Mine is happening this weekend as well and I’m not nervous at all. Maybe anxious/curious as to how it’ll happen but that’s it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
I saw the avatar and wondered why is Grid posting about pre-proposal stuff?
Post # 5
Hahaha! Don’t worry you’re perfectly normal and just nervous because of the excitement. Me and my fiance almost have the same story the difference is we already have a cute little boy named Hugo. 🙂 And after all the preparation my fiance did we come up of taking Coral Gables museum wedding as our venue. Stop thinking of how or where is the place he do propose to you just remember that no matter how simple the place/food, etc is the important thing is you are the girl he wants to marry and spend his whole life with. 🙂
Post # 6
I am new to this so no idea how to tag people in my replies but maybe it is anxiety as to how it will happen rather than nervousness?
Away to eat pizza to calm myself haha!
Post # 7
phew, glad that I am not the only one. A simple proposal would be perfect, I get nervous at the thought of it bringing all eyes on me if anything!
Maybe I am nervous about the expectations after we are engaged? Not from my man, but you know what is maybe expected of a newly engaged couple i.e. setting a date, picking a venue. From what my engaged/married friends have told me, it seems some people expect you to know all this stuff as soon as you are engaged!
Post # 8
I was a little nervous… Not about getting engaged itself, but just about that one moment where all the attention/pressure is on me. I have some social anxiety sometimes, though, so the idea of people staring at me and expecting me to act a certain way was the main catalyst for my nerves.
Post # 9
- Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion
Yes, I was nervous, and I couldn’t really pinpoint why. We talked about it, and I think my issue was that I knew it was happening, but I didn’t know exactly when, so it was causing me anxiety to not know the details. Are you a plannner and like to know what to expect? I was like that. But in the end, I was surprised, and it was simple and perfect. I had said that I didn’t mind if we happened to be in public (out for a walk or something), but I didn’t want anything big and flashy. He ended up proposing at my parents’ house at dinner with some family friends, and it was lovely that those few people I’m very close with were there. Good luck! Tell us how it goes!
Post # 10
ooh yes my man (should I say fiancé
) says I was always a control freak. He proposed last night and I of course said yes! We took a detour on the way to dinner to the local observatory to stargaze and he dropped down on one knee on the viewing deck with the city in the background. It was amazing! Then we had the best steaks ever afterwards haha! Thanks bees
Post # 11
- Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion
congrats!!! I’m happy for you!!
Post # 12
Just to chime in that I’m expecting a proposal some time around end of November and I am super happy/nervous/excited. A myriad of emotions basically!