Post # 17
@mgol25: Awww, I think there is too much emphasis on the day personally. Not that people shouldn’t enjoy it to the fullest, but I’m sure there will be so many more moments, days, experiences, etc where you feel like you’re on top of the world and for good reason. I haven’t had my wedding yet but the way I keep trying to keep it in perspective is by imagining myself at the end of my life and what I will likely reflect on. The things that come to mind are God, my (future) DH, my (future) children, other family, friends, and the love I’ve been able to experience from all these relationships. I highly doubt when I’m old and grey I’ll be thinking back and saying “My life peaked at my wedding!”
Post # 18
The important day of my life to date was meeting my FH
Post # 19
That’s exactly what I did! I was super mellow, and totally put the day into perspective, and now I’m thinking, “Wow, did I totally underestimate the importance of this day?” I’m glad that most Bees on here aren’t responding with “You’re crazy!!!! It was the most important day ever!” Best day, agreed. It was definitely one of the best days. Biggest/most important, meh…
Hahahaha, I LOVE this response. One of my most important days ever was when I ran my first half-marathon. I trained so hard and fought to get to the finish. I burst into tears when I finished. I’m getting emotional now thinking about it!
Post # 20
Mine wasn’t! It was completely fabulous and more than i could’ve ever dreamed for BUT the birth of my son was way more satisfying and hopefully other days will be just as awesome too. But honestly nothing can top my son’s birth!!
Post # 21
i really hope that the day i get married to my Fiance doesn’t end up the greatest day of my life. it will be pretty damn special but the greatest day? eh. i mean, i am so thrilled to marry my Fiance and i feel so lucky to have him in my life but to say that it will be the most special and greatest day of my life makes me feel like i’m selling me and my life kinda short.
i agree with PPs…the greatest day with my Fiance will have been the day we met each other for the first time. i have no problem saying that the greatest day of my life will most likely be when i give birth to our first child because 1) i grew a human in my body (WOAHHHH, GO BODY!) 2) he/she will have been born from absolute love 3) it will be half me and half my Fiance which i think is just so incredible.
Post # 22
I feel like it would definitely be one of the biggest and most important days of your life – as some other bees said, because so much goes into it and all. But I don’t think I would look at it as going downhill from there. The way I see it is I get to spend everyday from there on out married to the love of my life. I get to come home to him every night and wake up with him every morning & honestly, that’s what I’m most looking forward to. I feel like I would wake up every morning feeling like the happiest girl in the world. I look at my wedding as a new start that will take the rest of my life to a new level of joy and happiness that is beyond what I can even imagine! Personally, I don’t see a negative side to it at all. I embrace it as the “biggest day of my life.”
Post # 23
My wedding was great but definitely not the biggest, most important, or even best day of my life. It was actually very stressful! It was a brautiful day and one I wont ever forget, but i can name a lot more “best day evers” that we have had since thr wedding – ultrasound of our babies, birth of our 1st (#2 isnt here yet), the day we met, the day he proposed, thr list goes on.
Post # 24
it will certainly not be the biggest day of my life. Up to now my biggest days: getting my driver’s licence, graduating from my MBA. I am working toward a professionnal certification, that will be a great day. Becoming a manager, a CEO will.
But getting married changes nothing about me and my abilities. as a human being and as a woman, what does that change? nothing.
it’s a big day because of money spent on it. but in terms of accomplishment, nope!
Post # 26
I think my wedding day will have a lot of “best of” competition. The day the vending machine at work gave me two bags of Skittles for the price of one? Pretty awesome!
Post # 27
As a 53 yo woman that is one of my most hated phrases! I really think it is part of the wedding industry’s efforts to make you think you need to spend a bazillion dollars to make everything perfect for the most important day in your life.
The most important days of my life were when my children were born, AND a couple of days when life or death (not mine) hung in the balance and changed my perspective of what is important. After that, weddings dropped so far down the list it wasn’t even funny.
Yes, it is important and may be the most important thus far, but I can’t imagine anyone not having a day in their life where something was more important regardless of whether or not you have kids.
Post # 28
My wedding day wasn’t one of the best or most important days, even at that point. Since we’ve had a baby, it’s even further down the list. Every single day that I spend with my husband and daughter is way better than our wedding day.
Post # 29
I have plenty of friends who have said their wedding was the best and/or most important day of their lives…. and have achieved many other things that could be viewed as important (i.e. having kids, achieving a PhD, founding a non-profit, publishing books). The majority of those other things happened after teh wedding, and they will still say the wedding was best/most important. For me, that’s just not how I think. I can see how others view it as best, but it’s not teh truth for me. To be fair, I thought this way prior to my wedding, and didn’t expect it to be one of the best days of my life. However, it did end up being up there with some of the best days of my life. It’s hard for me to put them in ranking though. I would put when we decided to get married as just as important, if not more.
Post # 30
I think the idea that it was supposed to be the most important day of your life dated from a time when women had few other important days in their lives. If your sole function in life is to be a wife and mother, then becoming a wife is going to rank right up there. But I’m 59 years old now, and my wedding day is far from the most important day I’ve had.
Post # 31
I actually consider the “biggest day of my life” the day after we got married when everyone was gone and it was just he and I together as husband and wife sitting in an airport terminal ready for another adventure.