(Closed) Was anyone never “in waiting”?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I also joined the board after becoming engaged.  I was never actively “waiting.” Darling Husband and I dated for 7 years before our engagement, and while I knew it was coming, I also had so many other things going on in my life that I didn’t have time to “wait”, haha.  My deal was that we could not buy a house together unless we were engaged, and since we were looking at houses I knew it was coming.  I also sort of thought he had a ring, but the day/time/place of his proposal was definitely a big surprise.  I do have friends who are now in waiting, who have been together as long as Darling Husband & I with no real timeline for their future.  I did not want to be like them, which is why I told Darling Husband no ring=no house. 

Post # 4
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think you should probably post somewhere other than the waiting board if you’re looking for people who have never been waiting.  You’re posting on a board that is set up for “future brides and grooms who have yet to get engaged.” Not likely to get the responses you’re looking for on this particular board.

Post # 5
5147 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I was never really “waiting”. I sent him a couple pictures of rings I liked, but I never felt like I was “waiting”. We were together 6 years before getting engaged, and got married a year later.

Post # 6
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I was never waiting either and struggled with the concept when I joined the WB. I personally never felt like I needed to put pressure on or have discussions regarding when I would be married with anyone I ever dated.  My proposal was a complete wonderful surprise. (he was not my first proposal and they were all surprises)

The waiting group is diverse. I’ve read many waiting posts of people who have been dating their spouses for many years, some who have only been dating a short time but want to be married by a certain age and want to hit their goal, some who feel like they’ve done everything else with their spouse (buy house) in hopes he would propose and still hasn’t, and then their are the girls who just want to get married. 

Post # 7
9482 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

No, I never was.  I knew it’d happened if it was meant to be.  It did and it was nice to know it was his decision on his own.  🙂

@mwitter80: I feel the same as you.

Post # 9
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t really consider myself having been in waiting, either. The decision process to get married was mutually made around the time we were dating one year and it was one year until I graduated. He proposed a few months later. 

I found weddingbee and other websites around the time I started seriously thinking about the wedding. So I had some considerable research done by the time he proposed, and we have benefited from it sooo much! Less hassle, more info, easier and quicker decisions.

I think personal expectations and family/cultural expectation play a large role in whether one feels the need to be married asap. My immediate family would have been cool with us cohabitating, but his family has a more traditional approach to such things.

Post # 10
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was never waiting and had never even heard of it until finding the bee after becoming engaged. We knew early on we were going to get married, but we had so much other stuff going on, I never really cared when it would happen. 3 years later, he popped the question, surprising me for sure. It still took us 2 years to get married after that.

The waiting boards are…interesting

Post # 11
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was in waiting, but it wasn’t that I wanted to be married ASAP, it was just that we were ring shopping, talking about weddings all the time and getting ready to be engaged. I’m glad I came to the bee because I was wedding ignorant.

I also think that whether or not you know any waiting girls depends on your age. I’m in my late 20’s and I know lots of girls who openly talk about wanting to get married.

Post # 12
3120 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Joined after engagement.  Knowing myself, I can honestly say that if I had to watch other people planning their weddings while I was waiting for a ring, I would have gone crazy!  I have to be honest…there are still parts of me that misses the “is he going to do it?!” moments.  I know that I have the man of my dreams for the rest of my life, but there’s something sad about not having that moment of wonder and knowing that I won’t have a suprise like that from him til we plan babies!

Post # 13
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Nope, was never waiting. We were together, living together for a long time and had had the talk about getting married and having a baby. We didn’t talk about getting engaged, a ring, etc., at all. I was totally shocked when he proposed with a ring. 

Post # 14
3977 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Nope, I never was either.

We met in July.

I knew I loved him in October.

We talked about marriage in November.

He proposed in December.

I found this site in January.

Post # 15
1231 posts
Bumble bee

I’m waiting and i’m not waiting if that makes any sense. I have so much other stuff going on that i’m not consumed with the thought of getting married, it happens when it happens. But all of our friends are getting married, so it kinda makes you think, well shouldn’t we be doing this too? Now our friends and his family keep saying oh your next, when will it be. So we have to deal with PEER PRESSURE. lol

We have been together for 5 years and in our mid to late 20’s so like I said I’m waiting but not waiting. The thought of getting engaged and married is in my mind but doesn’t consume my every waking moment.

Post # 16
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I never waited. I joined this site after I was engaged. Though I was never even waiting for my guy to propose. I wasnt even thinking about him proposing at all. He completely surprised me!!!

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