Post # 1
I only started coming to this site after we set our date, which was almost a year after we got engaged. We will be engaged almost two years to the day at our wedding.
I’m a little surprised to see so many people who are “in waiting”. I don’t think a friend of mine has ever considered themselves “in waiting”, and I can say that while my Fiance and I had certainly discussed engagement as the next step our hearts were both ready for at some point in the future, our engagement was a pure (and beautiful) surprise. I’m just curious if I’m in the minority? When does one consider themselves “waiting”? Is it after already having discussed marriage or after a certain period of time dating? Would love to see some responses, thanks!
Post # 3
I also joined the board after becoming engaged. I was never actively “waiting.” Darling Husband and I dated for 7 years before our engagement, and while I knew it was coming, I also had so many other things going on in my life that I didn’t have time to “wait”, haha. My deal was that we could not buy a house together unless we were engaged, and since we were looking at houses I knew it was coming. I also sort of thought he had a ring, but the day/time/place of his proposal was definitely a big surprise. I do have friends who are now in waiting, who have been together as long as Darling Husband & I with no real timeline for their future. I did not want to be like them, which is why I told Darling Husband no ring=no house.
Post # 4
I think you should probably post somewhere other than the waiting board if you’re looking for people who have never been waiting. You’re posting on a board that is set up for “future brides and grooms who have yet to get engaged.” Not likely to get the responses you’re looking for on this particular board.
Post # 5
I was never really “waiting”. I sent him a couple pictures of rings I liked, but I never felt like I was “waiting”. We were together 6 years before getting engaged, and got married a year later.
Post # 6
I was never waiting either and struggled with the concept when I joined the WB. I personally never felt like I needed to put pressure on or have discussions regarding when I would be married with anyone I ever dated. My proposal was a complete wonderful surprise. (he was not my first proposal and they were all surprises)
The waiting group is diverse. I’ve read many waiting posts of people who have been dating their spouses for many years, some who have only been dating a short time but want to be married by a certain age and want to hit their goal, some who feel like they’ve done everything else with their spouse (buy house) in hopes he would propose and still hasn’t, and then their are the girls who just want to get married.
Post # 7
No, I never was. I knew it’d happened if it was meant to be. It did and it was nice to know it was his decision on his own. 🙂
@mwitter80: I feel the same as you.
Post # 8
Sorry on the board mistake… I didn’t realize they were separate boards per se. I just thought they were topical tags as I always access everything from I guess what is the main board (?). Is there a way to edit this?
Post # 9
I don’t really consider myself having been in waiting, either. The decision process to get married was mutually made around the time we were dating one year and it was one year until I graduated. He proposed a few months later.
I found weddingbee and other websites around the time I started seriously thinking about the wedding. So I had some considerable research done by the time he proposed, and we have benefited from it sooo much! Less hassle, more info, easier and quicker decisions.
I think personal expectations and family/cultural expectation play a large role in whether one feels the need to be married asap. My immediate family would have been cool with us cohabitating, but his family has a more traditional approach to such things.
Post # 10
I was never waiting and had never even heard of it until finding the bee after becoming engaged. We knew early on we were going to get married, but we had so much other stuff going on, I never really cared when it would happen. 3 years later, he popped the question, surprising me for sure. It still took us 2 years to get married after that.
The waiting boards are…interesting
Post # 11
I was in waiting, but it wasn’t that I wanted to be married ASAP, it was just that we were ring shopping, talking about weddings all the time and getting ready to be engaged. I’m glad I came to the bee because I was wedding ignorant.
I also think that whether or not you know any waiting girls depends on your age. I’m in my late 20’s and I know lots of girls who openly talk about wanting to get married.
Post # 12
Joined after engagement. Knowing myself, I can honestly say that if I had to watch other people planning their weddings while I was waiting for a ring, I would have gone crazy! I have to be honest…there are still parts of me that misses the “is he going to do it?!” moments. I know that I have the man of my dreams for the rest of my life, but there’s something sad about not having that moment of wonder and knowing that I won’t have a suprise like that from him til we plan babies!
Post # 13
Nope, was never waiting. We were together, living together for a long time and had had the talk about getting married and having a baby. We didn’t talk about getting engaged, a ring, etc., at all. I was totally shocked when he proposed with a ring.
Post # 14
Nope, I never was either.
We met in July.
I knew I loved him in October.
We talked about marriage in November.
He proposed in December.
I found this site in January.
Post # 15
I’m waiting and i’m not waiting if that makes any sense. I have so much other stuff going on that i’m not consumed with the thought of getting married, it happens when it happens. But all of our friends are getting married, so it kinda makes you think, well shouldn’t we be doing this too? Now our friends and his family keep saying oh your next, when will it be. So we have to deal with PEER PRESSURE. lol
We have been together for 5 years and in our mid to late 20’s so like I said I’m waiting but not waiting. The thought of getting engaged and married is in my mind but doesn’t consume my every waking moment.
Post # 16
I never waited. I joined this site after I was engaged. Though I was never even waiting for my guy to propose. I wasnt even thinking about him proposing at all. He completely surprised me!!!