Post # 1
My fiance’s brother is getting married this June and my fiance is the best man. I was recently asked to be a reader at their ceremony which was a total surprise! I’m a little nervous…ok, very very nervous because I don’t want to mess it up!
“I’m glad you said yes because we already have your name on the program.”
I’m reading “Love is patient, Love is kind” from the bible. My FSIL’s uncle is also a reader. “We gave you the longer one because your the librarian!” Thanks, guys. Though, I usually read children’s books to 20ish elementary students, not 130 adults!!
Don’t get me wrong, I am honored. It’s just that when I am not goofing off enlightening the minds of the future generation, I am a little shy.
So, there’s that. But maybe it’ll not be so bad considering I don’t know half the people at the wedding. My real concern is my dress. I was going to wear this blue one, but it’s a few shades off from the teal color that the bridesmaids are wearing. Do you think that will be strange? What should a reader wear? Does it matter?
Post # 3
I would just ask FI’s brother or your FSIL!
Post # 4
that’s great! too bad it sounds like this “special honor” was forced upon you. anyway… 😉
I don’t think you should try to match the bridesmaids unless you’re a bridesmaid. or unless the bride asks you too.
Post # 5
@Midnight: You’ll be great. One of the nice things about being a reader is that you don’t have to actually “give a speech” – so you don’t have to write anything, or speak extemporaneously. St. Paul already did the legwork for you.
A reader can wear anything s/he wants that is wedding (i.e. church) appropriate. (I’m assuming it’s a church wedding, since it’s a Bible reading? Or even if it’s out of doors/at another venue, if they’re including Bible readings then “church-appropriate attire” is a good rule of thumb.) Choosing a color that coordinates with but doesn’t exactly match the wedding party is a great move! I would love for the readers at our wedding to wear green, but I don’t feel like it’s the couple’s prerogative to dictate wardrobe choices to guests outside the wedding party, Kim Kardashian notwithstanding. Your dress sounds like the ideal thing to wear.
Just practice the reading a few times ahead of the ceremony, take a deep breath, and you’ll do a fantastic job. Congratulations!
Post # 6
I’m sure you’ll be wonderful! I was a reader in my friend’s wedding last summer, and also a bridesmaid, so I didn’t have to worry about what to wear. Definitely ask the bride if she’d prefer you not to wear the blue. But typically, readers just wear whatever they want; you can wear anything that’d be appropriate for a guest.
Post # 7
Thanks for the advice! And sorry the typeo in the title (woopsies!) 🙂