Post # 1
Today I went to my hairdresser to touch up my roots and get a trim. Feeling a bit spunky, I asked my hairdresser to “do something really different”with my hair to surprise FH. I have uber curly hair and for many years I got it chemically straightened but had to stop as my hair was becoming heavily damaged. Now that I color my hair my hairdresser says I CAN NOT get it chemically straightened anymore. So today, my hairdresser blew dry my hair and used a straightening iron on it and it came out great and I couldn’t wait to show FH.
Well to say he loved it would be an understatement. He attacked me like a wild man (in a good sort of way) and that was the effect I was hoping for. But now he is going on and on about how great it looks, I look 10 years younger, and that I should get up early in the morning to get my hair to look like this all the time.
First of all, I am all thumbs when it comes to blow dryers and straightening irons and the like. Plus I already get up at 5:45 Am to care for the sanctuary animals before getting ready for work. When he told FH all this, he suggested that I go to bed an hour earlier so I could get up earlier and do my hair. He even said something about me getting a wig!!!
Hey! I already exercise almost everyday and I try to look nice – what am I with my natural curly hair – chopped liver? I am flabbergasted at what he is suggesting here. Bees, do I look that bad with my natural curly hair? I will post pics of my hair au naturale and today’s “do”.
My usual hair style-
Today’s style (sorry it’s a cell phone pic) –
Post # 3
I think you look beautiful both ways! But the straightened look definitely has a sexy polished look. I think I look great the way my hair is naturally, but it certainly looks fantastic done up. Honestly, if I had hair as thick as yours I’d take the time to sport the sexy do. 🙂 I just don’t…sigh. You have a fantastic hairdresser.
Post # 4
I agree with claireos – you look great both ways, but the straight hair is sexier and more polished and novel, which is probably why your guy is so excited about it. I straighten or curl my naturally crazy hair every day, so I empathize with you on the time thing (and my hair is past my shoulder blades so it takes forever) – but I do it for me, not for my husband, so that’s a big motivational difference.
Post # 5
I love the straight hair on you too, but I feel your pain on blow drying and straightening. I have this crazy frizz that I have to straighten every day. At least yours looks good nauturally curly too and you dont have to do anything to it if you didnt want to.
Post # 6
Unfortunatly nice hair takes time, but it will get faster and easier the more you do it. It looks fabulous straighten and you should keep it that way, just make sure you invest in a high quality straightener as the cheap ones are useless.
Post # 7
I straighten my frizzy/wavy hair every day. I do it because I like it better that way though… I don’t think my husband really cares. I actually only have to do the whole shebang every 2-3 days though… my hair isn’t oily at all, and I can usually go 2-3 days without washing it (I just wrap it up in one of those hair towel twist things while I shower). My stylist tells me it’s actually healthier for your hair to not shampoo it every day.
Post # 8
I really love the straight hair, but I have straight hair and wish mine was curly! For him to say “get a wig” was such a “dude faux-paus” that it’s not even funny. Men sometimes have no idea what they’re talking about. Do your hair however you feel prettiest! He should feel lucky to have such a fabulous woman in his life, curly or straight haired.
Post # 9
I have wavy hair and wear it straight. For a while I was leaving the house at 6am for work. I discovered a little short-cut for the morning. I would shower after dinner, then blow dry my hair and make sure it was bone dry before bed. Then in the morning I would run the flat iron or curling iron through it and be done in 15 minutes!
Let the iron heat up for a few minutes before you start to use it. Typically I would turn on the iron, pee, brush my teeth and then do my hair.
If you do decide to regularly style your hair, make sure to use a product that will protect your hair from heat damage.
Post # 10
@Eight6Eleven: Thank you! I am gettting such a complex because I have never been good at styling my hair and gee, I didn’t feel I looked that bad with my curly hair. I know darn well there is no way I am getting up early – I don’t get enough sleep as it is. Maybe I will just wear a bag over my head. Sigh!
Post # 11
I think its just where you have had this curly hair for years & done something to spice it up. Maybe do your hair once a month like this for a date night or something? You already know he loves you with curly hair, he asked you to marry him! So don’t feel bad at all, you’re gorgeous either way!
Post # 12
Well I think that the starightened hair looks great. But I love your natural curls. I have always envied people with naturally curly hair. I suggest getting a nice product to smooth the curls a little bit, and then just style it curly on the days you don’t want to blow dry and straighten. Because it is a pain in the butt, and you don’t want to fry the shit outta your hair. You can jut pin back the bangs with some cute hair pins, and leave the rest to sorta poof around it ( the product should keep it from being frizzy), or you can learn how to do a cute twisty updo. Because with your new cut the curls should be a little more spunky, no?
My husband likes my hair in a curly wild mess, or up in a sleek bun, I rarely do either. I say, until you wake up with me to actually style it, you really have no say in how I wear it. 🙂
Post # 13
Ask your hairdresser for a simply solution to de-frizz-ify your natural curls and make them sleeker. On special occastions or maybe once in a while, feel free to straighten your hair. I wouldn’t get up an hour early every day though when your curls are so pretty!
Post # 14
@KT808: Don’t worry, that’s just how guys are. SO always wants my hair down, even when it doesn’t make sense (like kickball?). I have straight hair, but I tie my hair back for work everyday and I never wear make up during the week either. I just do those things if I’m going out with SO for dinner, drinks, etc.
And I wouldn’t read top much into it. He definitely wasn’t saying he’s not happy with the way you look, he obviously loves it, he’s with you. But when guys get excited about something, they don’t always know the best way to communicate it 🙂
Also, if you do decide to get into styling your hair now and again, as PP said, you can try to make it last a few days. I only wash my hair every other day or every three, and I use talcum powder (it’s actually talc free, but you get the idea) to keep my hair grease free (works best for lighter colors and mine is like yours, so I think you’re good!). I say try to do it once in a while, it’ll make you feel better all the time, not just on those days.
And as everyone said, you look great with both! (sorry, this was a long response)
Post # 15
I think it looks great both ways. I’ve always loved the super curly look – I have in-between hair, which can be very annoying.
I think a large part of his reaction is that it’s a new look. It looks awesome, AND it’s new and different, and that’s why he’s reacting so strongly. I bet if you did it everyday he’d still like it but not be quite so hung up on it. Why not try it on the weekends? I’m terrible with a blowdryer too but a good straightening iron can almost do it for you. And the trick that a PP mentioned – drying your hair the night before and straightening it in the morning – works great and speeds things up a lot.
Don’t stress over this though – if he’s a smart man he knows he has a beautiful lady either way, so do what make you happy!