(Closed) Was her reaction necessary?

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you’re taking it a bit too personally, if she is not a dog owner you really can’t expect her to understand how anxious a puppy can be about being left alone. I’d just let it go.

Post # 4
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i think the frustration is it was a girls only dinner then it was girls plus Fiance and dog then back to girls then girls plus a boyfriend then a few extra boyfriends and then you…. who started the enitre chain of changes said that you felt left out – next time just keep a ladies night out and then this wouldnt have happen

vent away….. we all do it

Post # 6
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

What a rude thing to say. I can understand why you would be upset as I would be too. It’s not really mean per say, it’s just an annoyance that could have been done without you know?? 

Post # 7
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Our puppy was a little anxious at first, but we started to ease him into crate training by putting him in it while we were there or sleeping and making it very cozy, giving him treats, making it very pleasant, overall. I understand not leaving the puppy at alone for long periods of time, but a couple hours out really will be okay! Otherwise you risk having a dog with serious seperation anxiety!!

Post # 8
858 posts
Busy bee

@bananarama: I agree, there was a show a few months ago on Animal Planet where they were talking about owner causing the behavior problems in their dogs and cats and not knowing it. they would get separation anxiety and act out and the owner wouldnt know why, OP have you thought about setting the puppy up for training? a few hours alone should be fine as long as you get the puppy used to the crate first, put an old blanket or something that smells like you in with him to comfort him

Post # 9
39 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

I might be a bit harsh, but if one of my friends snapped at me- I’d just not bother with the dinner at all, and would tell them maybe another time!


(Really I’d just prefer to play with my new puppy Laughing)

Post # 10
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Seriously… when Darling Husband and I first rescued our pup we couldn’t leave the house together because when we did the dog got all houdini and was able to unlock his crate, and then proceeded to poop everywhere and kick it up the walls and cieling. Yeah, I’d rather just stay home than come back to that… Our friends gave us crap because we were letting a dog “run our lives” (kind of true) but after we were able to cope with his separation anxiety and learned what works for all of us as a FAMILY it’s been 10000x better.

She needs to relax and realize that this is just another step up in your lives. Next comes marriage, then (possibly) a baby. What will she say then? “Find somebody to dump your newborn on so you can have social lives again” ?? yeahhhhh okay lady, wake up.

**I am not implying those with newborns can’t find a babysitter and have a good time, just that it’s really hard to stay away for too long, especially if breastfeeding.

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