(Closed) Was I right or wrong?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Well if you didn’t like this guy, I think it’s safe to say you were not meant to be with him.

I don’t believe in “one person for everyone” or “soul mates”, personally. There are people out there for everyone.

Post # 4
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You went with your gut feeling; most of the time our guts are right.

Post # 5
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853 posts
Busy bee

Of course you did the right thing! You shouldn’t ever marry someone you don’t like. And, your family understands that too, because they were willing to call it off and not pressure you to marry this person. I don’t believe that there is one person for everyone in this world—it just does not make sense. There are billions of people on the planet, and people find connections with others all the time. You need to marry someone who you connect with and can be happy with.

 

Post # 6
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1736 posts
Bumble bee

@missporkchops:  Exactly this.

Always trust your instincts. Don’t second guess yourself!

Post # 7
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8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Rockstar77:  Having some guilt is understandable. I think you did the right thing, though.

I am not from the culture of arranged marriages, and I understand that they can work sometimes, but if your dad called off the wedding, that guy must have said something VERY wrong. I think you did the right thing.

Forget about this guy and move on. I think you will still end up married to a good guy. I don’t believe that God sends one perfect man to be your husband… but hopefully you will end up with someone that is kind, sweet, funny, a good provider, etc. and you will have a long and happy marriage.

Post # 9
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3770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I think it’s more destiny that you found out how creepy the guy was early on so that your father was able to call it off!!

Post # 11
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423 posts
Helper bee

Don’t be in a rush. There is a saying: marry in haste and repent in leisure. No point marrying someone you didn’t like in the first place. When the time is right, you’ll find someone else. Plenty of fish even in the arranged sea.

Post # 12
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817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

You do what your heart tells you. Marry for love.

Post # 13
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8472 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Do not feel guilty. We are talking about your future, and you can’t have a good one with someone you don’t like. 

Post # 15
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You did the right thing! What did he say?

Post # 16
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3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t believe in soul mates.  If I hadn’t met my husband, I’d have met some other great guy and we’d be just as happy.  This is the path my life took and I’m so happy because of it, but I don’t believe it couldn’t have been any other way. 

If the guy was that big of a creep that your dad was willing to call it off, leave it off!  Either they or you will find another guy who will tickle your fancy.

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