Post # 1
Please be a lifesaver and help me…My family arranged my marriage to someone I did not know, when I met the person, I did not like him at all but I had to give into family pressure, the marriage was just fixed verbally.Within a week after that the person said something really creepy and vulgar which I was not comfortable with morally and the next day I told my father who called off the whole thing. Now after all this time, a feeling has crept into my mind a guilt that was I pre-destined to meet and marry this guy, if yes, did I make a mistake by finishing things off or was I right (since i did not like him)and the right person chosen by God is out there?Totally confused!!!Is there one person for everyone??
Post # 3
Well if you didn’t like this guy, I think it’s safe to say you were not meant to be with him.
I don’t believe in “one person for everyone” or “soul mates”, personally. There are people out there for everyone.
Post # 4
You went with your gut feeling; most of the time our guts are right.
Post # 5
Of course you did the right thing! You shouldn’t ever marry someone you don’t like. And, your family understands that too, because they were willing to call it off and not pressure you to marry this person. I don’t believe that there is one person for everyone in this world—it just does not make sense. There are billions of people on the planet, and people find connections with others all the time. You need to marry someone who you connect with and can be happy with.
Post # 6
@missporkchops: Exactly this.
Always trust your instincts. Don’t second guess yourself!
Post # 7
@Rockstar77: Having some guilt is understandable. I think you did the right thing, though.
I am not from the culture of arranged marriages, and I understand that they can work sometimes, but if your dad called off the wedding, that guy must have said something VERY wrong. I think you did the right thing.
Forget about this guy and move on. I think you will still end up married to a good guy. I don’t believe that God sends one perfect man to be your husband… but hopefully you will end up with someone that is kind, sweet, funny, a good provider, etc. and you will have a long and happy marriage.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I think it’s more destiny that you found out how creepy the guy was early on so that your father was able to call it off!!
Post # 10
I come from a culture of arranged marriages and I knew my parents have been searching a groom for me, but when this proposal came I was sad right from the moment it was fixed, thank God only verbally…but I was really unhappy, I knew I had done wrong by surrendering to family pressure and I am never gonna be happy with him, because he was nothing what I had in mind about my life partner but after calling it off I felt good for a few days…but now that I’ve still not found someone, I get this creepy feeling that did I over react and that I might not find Someone ever!!!
Post # 11
Don’t be in a rush. There is a saying: marry in haste and repent in leisure. No point marrying someone you didn’t like in the first place. When the time is right, you’ll find someone else. Plenty of fish even in the arranged sea.
Post # 12
You do what your heart tells you. Marry for love.
Post # 13
Do not feel guilty. We are talking about your future, and you can’t have a good one with someone you don’t like.
Post # 14
Feeling better already….tnx guys/gals 🙂
Post # 15
You did the right thing! What did he say?
Post # 16
I don’t believe in soul mates. If I hadn’t met my husband, I’d have met some other great guy and we’d be just as happy. This is the path my life took and I’m so happy because of it, but I don’t believe it couldn’t have been any other way.
If the guy was that big of a creep that your dad was willing to call it off, leave it off! Either they or you will find another guy who will tickle your fancy.