(Closed) Was I too hasty?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I only went one place, tried on about 10 dresses..maybe less, ordered the one that i wanted and only need it hemmed and a bustle.  I didnt cry, that isnt me.  I dont think you have to cry to find “the” dress.  As long as it makes you feel like a million bucks then you are a-ok.  If you really like it, dont second guess.  Everyone has a different experience. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I don’t think so! If you like it, it’s pretty, made well, AND fits – sounds like a pretty good combination to me!

Why do you have to cry? Or even have an ‘aha!’ moment? Things have different significance to different people, so although some people might experience dress shopping like that I don’t think there’s anything wrong if you don’t.

Don’t let other people’s expectations and mental constructs of how things ‘should be’ make you second guess yourself! I can’t imagine crying over a dress and I think that’s fine.

Maybe you ‘should’ve’ looked around more? I don’t know. But the process doesn’t HAVE to take weeks, and I think you got a good deal AND saved stress and effort.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

There was no crying at any of my shopping sprees. I’m like you. . . I chose a dress because it looked good, didn’t need much in alterations and was affordable. Maybe it’s just me, but I can’t imagine crying over any dress (and I’m an emotional person).

Be confident in the dress you picked!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

No tears for me. Love the dress.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I went dress shopping once…. Three shops in one day… I ended up picking one of the dresses at the first store I went to…I am kinda worried that I will find a dress that I love way more in the 14 months I have until my wedding but then I just thnk about how much I really love the dress I picked and I will look beautiful in it no matter how many other dresses they come out with between now and then. I am sure you will look beautiful too! Not to mention your dress was a steal!!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

If you like it, you like it.  I did not cry when I found my dress – I was actually undecided between mine and 2 others until my BM’s and mom saw all three and told me which one looked best.  I love my dress but I was not super emotional about it when I picked it out.  Putting it on getting ready before the ceremony is another story though ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I went one place and tried on like five dresses..went back to the first one that I loved and found online and purchased it right than and there. It’s in my closet and my wedding is still a year and half away! It fit perfectly (no alternations needed)

I didn’t cry either…tho both my Future Mother-In-Law and mom did ๐Ÿ˜€

Don’t second guess yourself…that’s like saying you’re not going to marry your fi because you didn’t get the firecracker experience with your first kiss kind of thing because it’s different for everyone ๐Ÿ˜€ Or you don’t get butterflies every single time you see him..

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

For my friend, hers was the second one she tried on.  I don’t think it matters when you find it or how many you’ve tried on, as long as YOU like it!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

no crying here. smiling, yes. as long as it makes you happy & you feel good in it, you’re good to go! i’m sure it’s beautiful.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I saw a box of tissue in dressing room when I was trying on my dress.  I pointed them out to my Maid/Matron of Honor and we both just laughed because we both knew it was not my nature to shed a tear for a dress (even if it was the dress of my dream).

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I only went one time. Tried on 6 or 7 dresses. No crying involved. I just knew the one I got was IT because I couldn’t stop smiling when I wore it. So you shouldn’t second guess yourself.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

No, I dont’ think you were hasty. If you are happy with the dress don’t second guess yourself. I don’t think everyone cries. I found two dresses I really liked and I did not cry with either. My heart may have skipped a beat but there were no tears shed and believe me I AM a crier, no doubt about that.  For the record neither did my mom even though she was very excited about the dress. Do you have a pic of the dress? We’d love to see it! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I feel so relieved to see this topic!  I just bought a dress at the Running of the Brides on Friday (after trying on at least 10 dresses, probably more) which was my first dress shopping excursion. The dress I bought was a steal and is very much my style.  I didn’t drop to the floor when I put it on, or start crying (and I’m a crier!).  I’d be lying if I said I got giddy or ridiculously excited. 

When I got home, I sent photos to friends and my parents and felt good about it.  Later that night, I made the mistake of watching “Say Yes to the Dress” and then I started crying!  Did I make a mistake buying a dress so quickly?  Did I miss out on an experience going to dress stores with my mom (who doesn’t live near me)?  Should I have gotten a more ornate, sparkly dress?  The next day, I realized that I really like my dress, and I could not beat the price.  Would it have been nice to go dress shopping with mom and others? Yes, but would it be worth hundreds of additional dollars?  Not so much. 

So I say don’t look at dress ads or websites, or TV shows like Say Yes to the Dress.  Don’t they always say on tests that your first instinct is usually right?  I bet it works for dresses too Laughing

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’m an over analyzer… I tried on probably 100 dresses, and went to dozens of stores.  I think I could have been happy with any number of them, but my final try on was my favorite (and my dress)!

I definitely got “The One” feeling, but there were no tears here.  When I knew my dress was the right one, it was 15 minutes in and out of the store, and the freeing feeling of knowing that I was done shopping!

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