(Closed) Was I wrong?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

she sounds sketchy all together… i think you should tell her that it is your big day… and you dont need the extra stress…. tell her your reasons… she hasnt made it to dress shopping… or even to just hang out… etc… you are not a babysitter… you are the bride!

Post # 4
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5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

this is super weird.  her mom just volunteered the information that she’s not preggers?  if she isn’t preggers, than it sounds like the poor girl needs some psychiatric help.  if she IS preggers, than the mom is nutso….

i guess it all depends on whether or not she is actually pregnant.  if she is pregnant, than yeah, i can imagine needing to give her more leeway as it sounds like she is going through quite a bit right now, and your wedding might be lower on the priority list.  if she isn’t pregnant, it sounds like she just needs a good friend to help her through what is obviously an altered mental state.

Post # 5
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would give her the option of backing out.  She really doesn’t seem like she is that into your wedding.

Post # 6
Member
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am confused. So is she pregnant or not? And if she is not why is she telling you she is? She is obviously telling someone lies. I don’t think it was rude of you to give her the option of stepping down. It sounds like she has a lot going on. If she decides to not take the option, let her figure out the dress situation herself. She can ride with the other BM’s or arrange rides with someone else. You shouldn’t feel like a her taxi.

Honestly, weddings have a way fo showing you who you friends are. If she is making this whole pregnancy thing up to get attention, she has some serious issues. Sorry your Bridesmaid or Best Man is working your nerves.

Post # 8
Member
2867 posts
Sugar bee

I’m jokingly suggesting this: Invite her over and tell her to pee on a stick for you.

This stuff is crazy, she’s too much drama to be a friend for me, I’d cut her.

Post # 9
Member
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Seriously … Planning a wedding can be enough stress at times. You definitely don’t need “friends” making it worse. Give her the option to back out, it will definitely decrease your chances of unnecessary drama

Post # 10
Member
529 posts
Busy bee

Why would she want the extra stress and have to fork out the dough? If you are close with her mom maybe talk to her?

Post # 11
Member
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

How does one make someone take a pregnancy test?  That’s my only questions lol.

She sounds sketchy to me though…

Post # 13
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203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

this exactly why i am thinking of not having bridesmaids at all. It’s just way too much hassle to deal with.

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