(Closed) Was I wrong to assume?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

So she’s not even coming to the rehearsal?

If she just doesn’t want to get her hair done, I say fine. You’ll save money. But if she refuses the rehearsal, I’d let her know that no hurt feelings, she doesn’t have to be a bridesmaid if she doesn’t want to.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

she shoulnt have agreed to be a bridesmaid if she doesnt want to do those things!! 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think getting your hair done is a “given” as far as being a bridesmaid. If she wasn’t informed of it before, I can see how she might be upset at having to find someone to watch her kids for longer.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Nope, your not wrong to assume.

I agree w/ the other bee that mentioned the rehearsal, your Fiance should stress the importance of that. But if she wants to miss out on fun bonding time, then so be it.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I always assume that stuff is part of the day but if she is really adamant I would just let it go and ask her to show up a bit early to get the formal BM/bride shots.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Even though its pretty obvious and they should already expect to get dressed together, I think you should have told them more than 2.5 weeks in advance that you want to do hair and makeup together etc. But still what is her problem?? Honestly if she only said yes to being a bridesmaid as a courtesy I would look for a cousin or friend and replace her. Who needs a bridesmaid like her?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

In just about every wedding I’ve planned or coordinated, the families of the bridal party would be present at the rehearsal…. so your in laws would be there to watch the kids.

I’d have them and Fiance let her know that the rehearsal is important, hopefully she puts her big girl britches on and joins you.

As for the hair – if it’s not her thing, don’t worry about it… the rest of you will have a lovlier morning if she’s not with you complaining the whole time.

Good luck!!!

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh my goodness what a nightmare!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

1 word: bitch

that “crap” is part of being a bm.. and hell she doesnt even have to pay for any of it!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Wow she sounds like she is totally overreacting! It’s generous of you to offer re her hair – she should be grateful. And no it’s not wrong of you to assume – if i was a bridesmaid I’d expect to do all those things no warning needed. Sorry she’s being so negative – just try to ignore it and have fun. Have an amazing day!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@pinkshoes: um yes… my thoughts exactly

tell her to grow up and get over it… youre getting your hair done for free and eating for free! stop complaining.

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