Was I wrong to call out a racially charged comment on social media?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 106
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Busy bee

This has been an interesting thread to read. 

Thug is most definitely not a racially charged word where I come from- it refers to usually men, usually young, definitely violent and anti social regardless of race. I’ve never in my life heard it referring to people of colour.

However, I live in rural England. 

In America, it is clearly used in a racially charged manner (a quick Google search shows numerous examples) and so I don’t think you did anything wrong in calling it out.

Post # 107
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Bumble bee

heatherlw :  Yes, well. The fact remains that white people overwhelmingly are NOT referred to as thugs. Regardless of what YOU think, there is a world that exists outside and behaves in its own way. The question is about the behavior of the world at large, not the world in your mind. 

Post # 108
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Bumble bee

CanMurph :  Haha same here in the UK. It is a term my Grandma uses to refer to people who break in houses / get in bar fights etc (along with words like yob/hooligan) It definitely has no racial bearings here and could be used for anyone regardless of colour. 

But to the original post, in the context you are in where it is a well known racially biased term, then yes her Mum did most likely mean it in a racist way so deserved to be called out. Would I have called it out? Probably not, but I think it is great that you were brave enough to do so.

Post # 109
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Bumble bee

pond :  Just noticed your post, I’m also a UK bee and thought the same thing. In fact it scares me a bit to think I could acidentally use what we think of as an ‘innocent’ term like that around people from other countries and come across as racist without realising! 

Post # 110
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Busy bee

jpbee :  I know what you mean! There have been several posts on here where I’ve thought ‘really? That’s racist?!’ 

It’s good to know though, I’d hate to inadvertently offend someone through cultural differences

Post # 111
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Worker bee
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Worker bee
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Post # 114
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Buzzing bee
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1. I’m not an American, but I find the term majorly used to described black men when used in US media. Honestly I think Hollywood has a huge part to play since I’ve always found the “thug” in movies and tv shows have mostly been portrayed by POC.

2. Honestly, while I won’t describe the player behaviour as “thugish”, I think to curse at a sitting Head of State in his presence illustrates pretty irreverent, disdainful behaviour. So I can understand her frustration and probably won’t choose to defend this particular case.

3. However, given your description of the context, I think its hard to disagreee that there’re some racial undertones in her choice of words, but as I said but I’ll probably wont have used that particular situation to make a point.

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Helper bee

The only wrong thing you did is back down and delete that status. You should have stood your ground.

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Worker bee
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Post # 120
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Blushing bee

You aren’t even like.. .000001 wrong about what you posted. I’ve gone at it with friends AND family about the same subject. I’ve got called worse names than thug for defending women, POC and certain subjects. It’s brutal but you are doing the right thing for defending him.

Any person who lashes out at you for defending someone being attacked simply for their race is on some level a racist themself. End of suject.

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