(Closed) “Was it planned?”

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Our daughter was not planned and I have only been asked a couple times if she was (mmost people feel safe asuming) and I always say “no, but we love her and wouldn’t change a thing =)”

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

How about “Were YOU?” 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

I’d say “You can plan these things???”

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Sorry…that is kind of rude…but I tend to be rude when people ask me things like that! 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would just say yes.  It’s easier.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would answer a question with a question…”why do you want to know?” works. But I also love “were you?” LOL!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kate169: Hahaha, love that response!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

lol that can be a bit rude especially if it leads in to a conversation about your BC choices, etc. I’ve been asked. mine wasnt. I just say “nope, pleasant surprise!” 🙂

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Our home and the two acres it sits on

I think it’s because people want to know if they should congratulate you or not. I think the rule should be that you always congratulate, but they’re trying to figure out what next. It’s awkward, I give you that, but I don’t think it’s stupidity or ignorance. It’s just (weirdly, I swear) the first thing you wonder.  “Should I be excited for you?”

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

i agree, i think this is such a rude and off-putting question! i’m planning to share the news at work in the next week or so and i’m expecting at least a few weirdos to ask me this same question. the thing is, i think it’s a weird thing to answer EITHER way! we DID plan this, but it also sounds weird to be like, “yeah! (read: me and my husband were DOIN IT every day and night, here’s a visual!!!)” it’s just an awkward thing to ask all around. i plan to just say we are extremely happy and excited…and hope they can read between the lines that it’s not their bizness 🙂

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@cheese:That.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

My sister always answered, “God planned her!”  Or “Someone planned her.”

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park

How about “seriously”? I mean, that’s such a horrible question! I’ve only been asked that once, and by a father, no less! He’s a bit dense anyway, so I shouldn’t be surprised. You could even say, “Would you like to know how often we had sex and what positions we used?” Bet that woulld shut ’em up!

But I also like the simple “yes”. They’re morons for asking it, so just avoid any further conversation and give a nice noncommital nod and grunt. Then walk away.

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