(Closed) Was it REALLY a surprise?

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Was your proposal a surprise?
    Never saw it coming!! : (12 votes)
    11 %
    Knew a proposal was coming, but was surprised by when/how : (53 votes)
    50 %
    I saw it from a mile away, but still acted surprised : (23 votes)
    22 %
    No surprise at all, we agreed when and where to get engaged : (17 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 17
    405 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Not really a surprise. We designed the ring together and I knew when it was finished. And because I work away from home he had limited options for a weekend that I would be home, so we agreed on a date. The proposal itself was a surprise and I still fumbled my words even though I knew it was coming, so it didn’t lose any magic.

    Post # 18
    4495 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I knew it was going to happen at some point. We had been together for 10 years and talked about marriage all the time.  After 10 years we were both out of college and starting/a couple of years into our careers so I figured it would be relatively soon, but we had never picked out or looked at rings together or anything so I didn’t know precisely when it was going to happen.

    Every so often we go on really nice dates, so going downtown to a nice restaurant wasn’t really something that caught my attention. He seemed really off and kind of distracted all throughout dinner, but I didn’t really think much of it – I guess I just figured he was thinking about work. I love old Annapolis – all the little shops, the cobblestoned streets and the sailboats. We were walking around after dinner and we sat down on a bench by the water. He said he had forgotten his phone in the car so he went to get it while I waited. When he came back he had a giant book that turned out to be a scrapbook he had made (when he handed me the book I knew something was up). It had pics of us from the time we were 15 up to that point of 25. Each page began with, “Remember when…” and had moments of our first dates, college memories, graduations, and vacations. The last page said, “Remember when I asked you to marry me?” And when I looked up he was on his knee 🙂

    Post # 19
    2684 posts
    Sugar bee

    Complete surprise for me.  We had purchased a house earlier in 2012, and we both agreed that it would be better to build up our savings before having a wedding.  I was expecting a proposal maybe sometime this year, but we got engaged last November.  There were no hints and he proposed on what was otherwise a normal Friday night for us.  

    Post # 20
    1755 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We’d gotten engaged without a proposal.  Sort of just both agreed we wanted to get married, we both had known we would get married one day pretty much from the start. However, Mr. C knew I’d always wanted a romantic proposal and had said he would one day.

    We’re long distance, so I knew it would have to be during a visit and I knew it would probably be on our anniversary.  However, even though I knew it was coming and the day it was coming, he surprised me with how he did it and even though the photographer and venue were already booked, I still cried when he got down on one knee Smile

    Post # 21
    2564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I had pretty much picked the ring I wanted when Fiance surprised me and took me into a jewelery store to browse last summer, so it was the waiting game that was killing me!  Months went by, then we went to a concert around Christmastime, no big deal, right?  BAM!  Proposal that was probably obvious to everyone EXCEPT me (do’h), lol.  It was absolutely perfect, though. 🙂

    Post # 22
    261 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I had no idea. We looked at rings after New Years (4 months before) because he wanted to get an idea of what I liked (and my ring size, I’ve never worn one). 

    there wasn’t any reason to think we wouldn’t get engaged someday but the day he did it I had no idea it was coming. When he pulled out the box, I was like, omg. What is that? Is that a ring? Wait. Don’t jump to conclusions. maybe it’s…a necklace. That’s a crappy way to do a necklace. And the box is too small. I think we’re getting engaged…

    although, some of my friends weren’t surprised at all.

    Post # 23
    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Due to logistical issues, he had to tell me to leave work early, but that was ALL I knew. I figured from that we either had reservations or a plane to catch.


    What I didn’t expect was every single important person in our lives to appear on a journey to the beach (some sat next to me on the plane, others picked me up, some greeted me at a beach house) and all of them to lead me to the beach at sunset where he stood in a heart shaped ring of candles and proposed.



    Post # 24
    2490 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    When he did it and how he did it was a total surprise… I was completely speechless and kind of in shock. I knew it was coming but I had no idea when.

    Post # 25
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    It hasn’t happened yet, but will be happening soon.

    SO and I picked out the ring together (he is supposedly ordering today!) and discussed a week that would be great for the proposal.

    So I know approximately when it will happen (in 2 months!) but I won’t know exactly which day or how it will happen, so there will be a surprise element to it.


    Post # 26
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I knew everything. We picked out the ring together and I knew it was coming in the mail. I knew what he was planning for his “surprise” proposal, but I didn’t let on. It was important for him to plan a surprise. I hate surprises!

    Post # 27
    700 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Completely surprised! We had talked about getting engaged and even started talking about wedding details (even looked at a venue! – shh, don’t tell). He had taken me to try on rings, but we didn’t purchase one that day or anything.


    He’s in the National Guard, so he was away for the 2 weeks in the summer and I was living with my last college roommate. He had told me he was getting back on Thursday, so Wednesday night, I was in my apt cleaning up. The doorbell rang, and there he was! Got down on one knee with 3 dozen roses in his arms (red for love, white for the wedding, and yellow because it’s my favorite color), IN HIS UNIFORM (who doesn’t love a man in uniform??) and said he couldn’t wait any longer and asked me to marry him. We hugged and cried, called our parents and siblings, and then updated Facebook, turned off our phones, and went out for fro-yo. It was really fun/sweet to come home and see a gazillion congrats from friends and family online.

    Post # 28
    906 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I knew it was coming. Long ago we had decided that when one of us finished a PhD we’d get engaged/married. We got together in 2006 and he defended his dissertation in summer of 2012. Once the date of the defense was set, I was chatting with a friend and mentioned to her that I believed he’d propose within the two weeks following that date. I was right, but my estimate was far too long. He proposed the day after defending. I had no idea he’d purchased a ring or what he was planning. I knew it was on the table, but was surprised by the exact timing and manner of proposal. Best of both worlds, I guess.

    My dissertation, by the way, is not even close to done, and won’t be complete until after the wedding. Such is life.

    Post # 29
    494 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We talked about it a lot. I would always make jokes and ask when I would get a ring on my finger and he would always say 20 years. I knew it was just a matter of when he thought we were financially stable enought to handle the wedding costs. 

    A week before he told me he wanted to plan a really nice date night since we hadn’t been out on a date in a looong time. (He told me after he’d been purposely making up excuses not to go out so he could use it as an excuse for a special date night). I kept telling him all week we should talk about what we wanted to do, but he kept saying “Nah, we have lots of time. We’ll figure it out later”. That week he told me he was planning on going for lunch with my dad. This was unusual as they’d never been before. He said that he wanted to try the hot dog pizza at Pizza Hut (yuck!) and thought my dad would enjoy it too. This tipped me off something might be happening as I knew he wanted to talk to my dad first and get his blessing. My dad told him the day before the lunch it wasn’t going to work out though. I was shocked that Fiance didn’t try to reschedule or anything so I thought maybe I was wrong. (he told me later he rescheduled for a quick coffee visit on a lunch break at work) Fiance told me I should get my nails done for our special night. This was the biggest tip of all because he’s never said that to me before. The night before the date night came, I told him we should figure out what we’re doing. He said “No, we don’t have to because I’ve already planned everything”. 

    Once the day started I knew it was coming, but it was so good to be true that I didn’t know if I really believed it. So I was kind of surprised but also anticipating it. 




    Post # 30
    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I’m not engaged yet, so I couldn’t answer the poll, BUT I know it won’t be much of a surprise. I know that it will be sometime between now and the middle of July. Plus, we’re going to be working opposite shifts for most of the summer, so there will be very few opportunities for him between now and then. Poor guy. I’m completely okay with that though :). Who knows, maybe he will manage to catch me completely off guard! 


    Post # 31
    11231 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I knew it was coming, since we’d found The Ring. However, I had no idea that he’d bought it (we found it, I fell in love and put the ball in his court) until the day he proposed. I found the receipt in his car (on accident!) and he ended up proposing later that afternoon after he told me that he had to go takes some video games back to a friend (and also pick up the ring that had just come in lol).

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