Post # 1
About a week ago Fiance & I agreed to notify each other of ANY purchase that wasn’t a necessity. Even $5, we have a wedding in 2 months & we’re tryin to buy a house & pay for his school. Money is super tight!!
So then 2 nights ago my friends pranked my car (covered it in candy peeps & silly string & that stuff eats paint). Fiance helped me rinse off my car at 2am & then he took my car since I had an upset tummy & didn’t want to drive him home.
That next morning, he comes to get me & he tells me he took it to a drive thru car wash. I was SOOOOO mad at him! It was a really sweet gesture, he later explained it was because I didn’t feel good & he saw washing it as a necessity (silly string & peeps will destroy your car’s paint). But I was mad cause he didn’t ask me… so mad I left the room & we didn’t talk for like 20 minutes.
Anyways, we’re ok now, we talked about it & he says he completely understands why I was mad… that $10 (or however much it cost) could make the difference of him finishing school (literally). Now, I feel a little bad cause he was being really nice to me & I just got really really upset with him & made him feel bad for being nice.
Post # 3
I think it was an overreaction on your part, but I am glad to see that you realize you might have gone a little too far, especially by giving him the silent treatment. Make sure you let him know that you understand why he did it and that you appreciate him for thinking of you and wanting to take care of you. He understands why you were upset, so just make sure he also understands that his kind gesture didn’t go completely unnoticed.
Post # 4
You should make him a little card or do something nice for him.
Post # 5
I told him the gesture was very sweet & I knew he was trying to be really nice to me. I also thanked him for washing my car but also said that we need to be super careful with money.
I’ve also had money trusting issues with him, he doesn’t have a job & things would be completely different if he did. He has some money in his account to last him thru the next few months & he’ll be 100% out of money in a few weeks… we don’t really have any savings so we’re not sure what we’ll do next month :(.
Post # 6
I will tell him when I see him that I’m sorry for disrespecting him thou… I’m generally super easy going & it takes A LOT to upset me. No matter what he did, I shouldn’t disrespect him & I guess that’s why I feel bad.