Post # 1
I think it’s gotten strange I’m no longer upset by the SO’s bad news anymore. We were supposed to have a date tonight but he had to go back to his hometown to help his boss with his house he’s trying to rent out. I wasn’t upset. I usually hate giving up my date nights. This was a good reason so I understand. But he asked me to come over to his mom’s house and hang out with him.. The thing is I can only stay for two hours then I have to go back home to get to bed. I have to get up at 3 in the morning because I work at 4. It’s a half hour drive from my place to his moms. I told him I didn’t want to come over for only two hours.
He kept saying but it’s two hours with me. What could be better than that. I told him if came over we both knew what was going to happen. By 8 rolls around he’ll be successfully convincing me to stay to 10 and then when 10 rolls around. I’ll be spending the night which I really don’t want to do because I’ll have to get up at 2:30. So I’ll be tired at work.
Now he won’t even talk to me, and when he does he makes me feel guilty about. He says things like if your feeling guilty it’s not because of me your feeling guilty on your own. It’s hard not to when he asks me a question and then when I answer he cuts me off and it’s doesn’t matter your not here.
I love this man I really do but sometimes I feel like he’s the child in this relationship. I feel bad for not going down and seeing him. But I also enjoy my sleep, which seems to drive him insane.
Am I in the wrong for not seeing him?
Post # 3
I don’t entirely understand – if he had two hours to sacrifice, why didn’t he just drive to you if it was that important?
Post # 4
@MrsTahoe: He came back home to his mother’s house. His mom wasn’t going to let him go.
Post # 5
and his grampa needed help around his house.
Post # 6
uhm, how old is he? she wouldn’t let him?
Post # 7
I understand him wanting to see you but he should be respectful of your schedule. I think you made the right decision. Tell him to stop guilt tripping you. Go to bed and get some rest lady 😀 Your health is most important and he should be concerned about your health
Post # 8
@bestbuddies: Agree with this.
In college I had a job that made me get up crazy earlier, and friends were guilting me all the time into staying out late. It would only make me cranky and unrealiable at work the next day. Not to mention I got sick a lot!
Don’t let him make you feel bad about wanting sleep – HIS job/family/responsibilities took him to that part of town. You shouldn’t have to sacrifice YOUR well-being/responsibilities for the sake of two hours together.
Post # 9
You are not wrong at all for not going to see him. He should understand your situation and that you have to go to work in the morning at 4 am. Yes its 2 hours but those 2 hours could have been spent talking on the phone, skyping or him getting his butt up and coming to see you for the 2 hours because you have to get up. I think its just about understanding schedules and he will get over it soon enough.
Post # 10
he could just as easily visit you– if he was more mature and acted like an adult. who’s mom won’t “let” them see their fiancé? that’s ridiculous.
when my Fiance and I can’t see one another (because he works early in the morning and needs his sleep) I encourage him to get more sleep and NOT come see me because I know how tired he is at work!
Post # 11
It seems like he’s being pretty immature. Is this just a problem tonight or in general? If someone values a relationship, they will talk to you even when their angry.
Post # 12
she would have het him go. ( I was still upset when I wrote that. Emotions) But she would have been upset. He would have felt guilty for it. He just doesn’t like admitting it.
@AlwaysSunny: It seems this is just a problem tonight. He called me back, at midnight, and he was better. He needed time I guess.
Post # 13
im just curious – how old is he?