Post # 16
I think this is just the way that some people use social media. Sometimes, I browse the profiles of specific acquaintances, not because I am “stalking” them but because I am wondering what they are up to or trying to catch up on their life events.
Post # 17
I’m super confused why this is a post. She probably feels bad she couldn’t invite you for budget reasons or whatever and probably just liked a bunch of your posts cause she is thinking of you. It’s not that weird.
I have a situation like this with an old family friend. I couldn’t invite her for budget reasons and I feel bad. I might have noticed and liked her posts a little bit more because she’s on my mind. I would NOT invite her to my wedding shower or baby shower because expecting a gift from her seems pretty shallow if I didn’t invite her and her family to my wedding. I still care about her though.
Post # 18
ive had the somewhat same situation that you have been in.
grew up with a girl from babies all the way into middle school, our friendship become somewhat distant in high school due to the fact that we no longer attended the same school. But i still saw her and her family pretty regularly due to our parents still being very close friends.
fast forward a few years she now lives in alabama, im still in florida. Our parents arent nearly as close friends anymore due to living in different states as well. When i got married i obviously sent her parents and her an invite. Her and her family were a big part of my life when i was growing up, so i saw it as a nice gesture to invite them to the wedding. Her parents couldnt make it to due an emergency (i wont go into full back story, but i completely understood why they couldnt come), but she did attend my wedding, she brought a close girlfriend of hers as her plus 1 since both her parents couldnt make it.
i didnt get to speak to her a whole lot other then a general short conversation during the reception, but i appreciated that she was there. Now she could have been there because she truly wanted to attend, or she could have been there due to the sole fact that she was came into town for the family emergency and decided that since her family made up 4 guests, and they couldnt make it, she was doing it as gesture for her parents.
who knows. But with that if i invited someone to my wedding, i dont expect an invitation to theirs automatically just because they were at mine.
Would i love to attend her wedding someday when that moment happens? Absolutely. But i dont expect an invitation just because she happened to attend mine.
some people decide to have big weddings and invtie anyone they’ve crossed paths with. And some decide to have intimate family only events. Im definitely not going to judge someone off a wedding invite unless they are my best friend of some form.
Post # 19
The reason this is bothering you is because you’re a genuine person. Please do not listen to anyone saying that you are the one with a problem. Sincerity and earnestness is something to be proud of, not shamed for.
There is something very icky about a former close friend not inviting you to her wedding and then liking all your posts on Facebook. It’s “icky” (sorry, I can’t think of a better word) because you were once so close, and it was awkward enough for her brother to be uncomfortable with you not being invited to her wedding.
Not inviting you in and of itself of isn’t icky. (Maybe she doesn’t want you in her life and that is her prerogative.) What’s icky is that that she didn’t have the decency to at least leave you alone. She gets to relegate you to some superficial Facebook friendship so that she can feel better about herself. You, on the other hand, get to be a total “drama queen” if it upsets you to be treated in this manner. Yuck.
Post # 20
The social media posts/following seem coincidental. I wouldn’t really give any of this further thought.
Post # 21
Maybe she was pregnant before the wedding, so it was a rush job?
Post # 22
Her brother probably told her the story afterwards, so she checked up to see how you’re doing.
Post # 24
block her on all forms of social media. she sounds unbalanced.
Post # 26
fieldwench : and styjen… I feel that you really, really understand where I was coming fun, and I appreciate that!! (Thank you to everybody for answering, as well). I do not normally place as much attention to social media as I did this time, but especially given the TIMING of the avoidant behavior from her brother, and then the sudden flurry of activity/engagement with me immediately before and after the wedding (and not since then, I’ll add), I definitely think some discussion about me was happening. And my question was, why even bother with me out of the blue, and at that point, if you chose to exclude me from these big events? Styjen, you said what I was feeling, in a nutshell…it felt “icky” that we had been old friends going back, then her brother was avoidant about the wedding, and then she chose that time to start “liking” my activity online.
I’m going to go with what others have suggested here… that for whatever reason, she was uncertain about whether to invite me to the wedding, then felt nervous about it, and came around afterwards to see how I was “feeling” about it all. I can’t pretened to understand it, but at least that seems a believable reason. Thanks everyone for hearing me out, and offering input. I’m moving on from it now!