- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Hi everyone this is just a mini vent post.
So ever since I started dating my SO my in laws have always “hinted” at wanting to have grandkids soon, they are really young (early 40s) so I don’t know what’s the rush.
For the past couple years they have even asked me when I’m going to give them a grandkid. Maybe its because they became parents so young and so did most of their family but I was not ready. I needed to finish my BA and now I am completing my grad school (December graduation if all goes well).
We are having our wedding in June and I talked to my Fiance and told him that I wouldn’t mind TTC after all we have been together for over 5 years and I feel like I am ready, well as ready as any couple trying for the first time. We came to this decision by ourselves.
Last night we had a family bbq and were enjoying ourselves and my Mother-In-Law said something about we finally getting married so we can have kids. Not only that but in front of everyone she started saying that we should start now and who cares if I am 5 months pregnant by the wedding, we can alter the dress. She mentioned this a few times and I felt like she was putting me in the spot and pressuring me to have kids, she know me an my Fiance are very private when it comes to our personal life. This made me so mad and I replied that I was not ready and I am probably going to wait a couple of years.
I talked to my Fiance and told him what happened and how it made me feel and that its making me want to wait even longer before we start TTC. I feel like the more they pressure me the more I want to wait which sounds childish and I shouldn’t be feeling like that. I really want to have a kid before the age of 30 and I’m 3 years short of that. I love my Mother-In-Law and she has always been supporting so I don’t know what prompted her to say that in front of everyone.