Post # 16
I’m confused by your question… about if money was a factor but not talking about size of diamond? I did not choose my ring, regardless. In terms of the style of my ring, I think my husband chose exactly what he would have regardless of money (platinum pave solitaire setting). In terms of the stone itself I’m sure money did influence his choice. I know that getting a perfect stone was #1 priority to him and I know he spent as much as he could possibly save up, so I assume that the bigger his budget the bigger the stone.
Post # 17
I would be lying if I said that money was not a factor. That said, we did have a good budget to work with, and what I chose was what I would have chosen regardless of the cost. We paid more attention to the 4 C’s when choosing a diamond though, rather than just getting the biggest one for the cost.
Post # 18
We didn’t shop together, but I gave him ideas. In terms of the style, no. The style I wanted was simple, a round cut with side stones… so the budget was enough that it wouldn’t effect that at all. In terms of the center stone, yes. For the quality we wanted, he started with looking at 1.5ct, but with a price tag ringing in nearly 15k, the budget bells were going crazy, so he went down in size until it was reasonable. I’m sure that if money wasnt a factor, I would have a larger stone. But back to real life…. I’m completely happy with his choice.
Post # 19
Yes, it was. I ended up with my second favourite, though.. which was $3,000 less than the top contender.
Post # 20
It’s hard to say. We’re young, haven’t been out of college that long, and neither one of us work in high-paying fields. So, yes, a strict budget was in play. That said, we are thrilled with our ability to work within a certain budget…instead of a smaller, lower-quality diamond, he was able to afford a high-quality sapphire in a custom setting. Originally he was not a fan of getting a sapphire, but over time, he warmed up to the idea…not just for financial reasons, but I have something unique yet somewhat traditional.
Post # 21
We had a price point for my e ring, but I fell in love with a ring that was well within our range. As for the band, we returned one and bought another one that was twice the price of the original one. We don’t regret it one bit because it is a perfect match.
Post # 22
Yes it was. All we needed was a setting and I got exactly what I wanted within the amount we wanted to spend. But I didn’t go looking out of our price range, cause I would have fallen in love with something else I am sure.
Post # 23
It was not a factor for me. I chose the ring I wanted, it happened to not be crazy expensive. If I had fallen in love with a $10,000 ring, I would not have gotten it (too many other things i’d rather spend the money on) but technically, I chose the ring without regard to cost.
Post # 24
Like Mrs.H2B, money was a factor in that I did not want the e-ring to be expensive. I did not set a budget or anything for him though, I let it be up to him.
when I started shopping for my wedding band, I set a budget that I really regretted. it absolutely limited my choices and impacted what I ended up choosing. when I realized that we have spent more on computers than I have on my ring, I realized that I should have been more generous with myself!
Post # 25
Money was a HUGE factor. FH and I are both in college. I’m unemployed, he has to pay for all of his college expenses out of pocket. There was no way we were going to be able to spend $1,000 on a ring. I went 7 months of our engagement without one, and probably wouldn’t have gotten one if FH hadn’t gotten a larger tax return than he expected. With the $800 he was able to set aside from the tax return, we purchased a moissanite.
At this point, I haven’t thought about upgrading ever. I doubt I would unless something pretty much destroyed my ring.
Post # 26
I actually have no idea how much my ring cost bc we never talked about what kind of ring I wanted (aside from logistical things like nothing set too high that I would bang around, etc), and I still have no idea what his budget was. He wanted to do everything on his own and I didn’t want to have anything to do with it.
After we got engaged, Darling Husband explained that his concerns about the ring were that the style reflected my personality, while meeting his demands in terms of the type of setting and the clarity, cut and color of the stone. Once he got all of the factors added up, he was looking at diamond rings in the $30-40K range and that just seemed ridiculous, considering the fact that we’re just starting out in our legal careers. So he also looked at sapphires and found that not only did a sapphire ring seem more like “me,” but that he could find a stone that met his standards in a price range that seemed more prudent to him.
So I guess money WAS a driving factor, but it ended up working out even better than if he had spent more. I absolutely adore my rings.
Post # 27
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
No. My e-ring was a custom piece, so I got exactly what I wanted.
EDIT: The biggest factor for me was feeling good about the source of my ring. We chose a local jeweler, because supporting small local businesses is important to us. We chose to use a recycled metal so that no new metal was removed from the earth to make my ring. And we chose to use a certified mined and cut Canadian diamond so that we knew there was absolutely no chance of the funds from that sale being used to fund conflicts and so that we knew it was mined in the cleanest way possible (though still not ideal, as minimg is not good for the earth no matter what. What can I say… I compromised.)
Post # 28
Yes, it was. Actually my hubby had me a ring on layaway that costed 3 times more than the ring I picked out. I didn’t want to have my hubby pay an X amount of money each month for a ring. Even though he didn’t mind to at all & could do so. I decided to get something less costly but looks just as big size wise due to its shape & I got to get it that day. 🙂 I started thinking about things like summer vacations ect, that we could use that money on and be spending it on things we can do together rather than on a ring. Hubby was a little surprised by MY choice. 🙂 But I just explained to him the same thing I explained to you ladies & he agreed but said he would still get me the other ring and I said no way I want my marquise ring NOW (as in the day we picked it up!) lol
Post # 29
Money was a factor. My husband actually wanted to get me something more, but we have a little girl and I don’t feel good about just spending whatever on jewelry. I’m budgeting out my ring cost so the money isn’t taking away from other expenses and that makes me more secure with the purchase. Technically I had a much bigger budget, but the exact ring I wanted custom made ended up being much less expensive than that.
Post # 30
I think money shaped my FI’s decision in some ways. He couldn’t NOT look at price tags. But he also knew he wanted to save a lot of money so he could get a nice ring. Not only a nice diamond, but a nice band as well… which btw is amazing!
The only thing that money shaped our decision was our wedding bands. He was looking at a certan kind, but ended up with a plain band because I couldn’t afford what he wanted 🙁 I feel bad, because he saved up so much. I just didn’t realize how much a wedding band would cost… gold is expensive these days!