(Closed) $$$: Was the extra TTC wait worth it?

posted 7 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Bump! I’m interested to hear this as well.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’n glad we’re doing it now.  Granted, I’m almost 32 and he’s 39 so I’m not sure waiting was an option for us 🙂  But you’ll never have everything ‘just so’ so I say don’t wait!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m glad that we waited before trying. I really enjoyed the first two years of our marriage with just us. We went on vacation, hosted parties, and generally had a great time. I wanted to have some “salad” days before our life became about TTC/OPKs/POAS. TTC is tough especially on a young marriage. Despite our many years together, TTC has been one of the toughest points for us. It’s difficult when one spouse frets and worries in hopes of a BFP while the other supports as they go through it. It’s not easy when suddenly BD’ing takes on new importance and their new ways to go about it hopes of acheiving a pregnancy. I’m glad that we waited until we were married a bit and ready for the challenge of it. Waiting also makes us appreciate us and our union more. For us, waiting two years to TTC works. For others, maybe not. I don’t think that our marriage would be as strong as it is now if we had kids right away. It would have been a lot more stressful and harder on us.

 ETA: I’m 31 (32 in February) and my Darling Husband is 33.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I’m so glad we waited. Saving up extra money gave us the luxury of moving to a big house (without freaking out that we were spending $xx on a down payment, while we had a child or that we were spending $xx on new furniture, etc.) It also allowed us to save up money, so now that I am pregnant, we have a cushion in the bank and can afford to buy furniture, clothes, etc. 

I also think that waiting helped us make our marriage even stronger. I thought it was pretty strong before, but it has grown even more. We are more mature and we are both ready to settle down. We also spent some time focusing on being child-free, and we went out a lot, traveled, etc. 

In the end, it was the right decison for us.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

we are not waiting – we are 23. I will have my MA in may, but I will be staying home. we rent (not rushing into buying a home) because it will allow me to stay home on one income. I’m so glad we’re doing it now – one reason being that I don’t want to get too deep into my career and not be able to stay home for a couple years, another reason that we’ve just always wanted to be young parents. 

 

we have enough money to live comfortably – we aren’t rich, but we’re happy.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We will be waiting. I’m 27 and he’ll be 34. We plan on waiting until I’m about 35. We might be a bit old… but the upside is we’ll be more comfortable in careers, have little debt, and will feel as though we lived life through and through.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Our plan was to wait a year but found out we got pregnant exactly one month after the wedding.  Though the point of us waiting was so we can enjoy our wedded bliss, we’re happy we are where we are.  We own our home and we’re in our early 30s, so we’re no longer spring chickens. I was worried we wouldn’t be “ready” but I think we’re up for the challenge.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@sorrycharlie: Agreed.  I’m not ttcing, but buying a home and having the career isn’t at the top of my priority list right now.  Having a baby is more important especially since my fertility is on a short timeline.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I totally needed this thread. Fiance and I just had to have a tough conversation about putting off our original start date, but it really helps to hear that other people are glad they waited for the same reasons that we are going to have to.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We aren’t married yet but plan on waiting. It’s important to us to enjoy time as newlyweds and accomplish our schooling and begin careers before we go down that road…once you have kids you can’t undo it!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

my hubby and i will have been together 5 years in just a couple days and married for 8 months. weve been trying to conieve for 4 months now. and wishing we shouldve started sooner. i know 4 months is nothing but i honestly always expected it would be easy to get pregnant! 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We waited for awhile because Darling Husband, then Fiance wasn’t ready to TTC quite yet, although he’s always wanted children. I was 33 when we got married and ready! All my friends suggested we try before the wedding, but we put it off until 1-month after we got married. We didn’t even TTC during our honeymoon!

It took us 11 months before getting pregnant! We’re both estatic, but knowing what we know now, I think hubby would have wanted to try earlier. There’s still 9 months of prep that leads up to the baby coming and combined with the 11 months of actively TTC – it’s more than enough time to feel “ready”.

But I’m not complaining and I feel blessed to be expecting. But I have a feeling our next little one will be rushed – I originally wanted to wait before we try again, but I can’t wait long. I’ll be a couple months shy of 35 when our bundle of joy arrives … time is not on my side.

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