Post # 17
Im 29 and have been with my DH for 12 years. We started dating in HS and moved in together about a year later. We were concerned with getting educated, starting careers and flipping homes far more than marriage. To us, it was just a piece of paper. Now that I’m married my view on the institution has changed, I love the committment and our bond and I’m so happy that we waited to have children together. We are in our 3rd and “forever” home and I will be able to stay home with our baby for at least a couple years – more if #2 comes quick.
We were married May 11, 2011 and I’m due June 1, 2012 so it didnt take us long at all considering we didnt chart or change much. In fact we were going to start actively trying around Christmas. I was so worried that we would have such a hard time and so concerned that it might just never happen for us. We are definitely blessed.
Post # 18
I can’t really say I regret not waiting (because I have a beautiful little girl), but I have often said I wish we had been in a better place financially. I would have wanted to have a significant savings, no debt and some world travel under my belt before having kids.I know there is really no perfect time to have children, but there is something to be said for financial security. It can put a lot of strain on a marriage if you’re worrying about bills and an infant! Been there, done that, don’t ever want to be back there again.
But honestly, if you’re willing to work hard, kids never stop you from achieving any of those goals. It just becomes more difficult.
Post # 19
This is such a helpful thread. We are waiting for financial / family illness reasons and I’m glad that others found it worked out better for them to wait.
Post # 20
We’re definitely waiting even though I will be 29 when we marry and my fiance will be 30. We bought our forever home two years ago and we have great stable jobs, but neither of us wants to jump right in to TTC after we marry. We still want to enjoy the DINK lifestyle for a bit longer plus travel a bit more and just enjoy being married. I know everyone does things differently, but based on my fiance’s brother’s experience, I’d never want to get pregnant right after getting married. He and his wife married in May 2009, she got pregnant in September 2009, they had baby #1 in May 2010, and then she got pregnant with twins in February 2011. Their life is chaotic and stressful and it’s definitely not how I would have chosen to start my married life.
If and when we decide to have kids, we’ll be ore than ready for them financially and emotionally. I can’t imagine having them any other way.
Post # 21
Getting a house was another reason we put off TTC – I think it was worth it.