Post # 1
I’ve been feeling very down lately about the wedding. The main issue about this slum is I feel like I’m losing control of my wedding and just saying “yeah whatever” to whatever. So when I ACTUALLY found the dress of my dreams, it brought my spirits back up. I was excited to not care about whatever else is going on with my wedding as long as I get this one thing I actually want, my dream dress. ONE problem, I can’t afford it :(. Was there anyone who had to settle on their dress?
Post # 3
I sort of did. I absolutely fell in love with a dress I saw online, obsessed over it, showed it to people, and then found out the price, about $8000 over budget 🙂 No way I could afford that so I started researching dresses at Alfred Angelo and David’s Bridal that were similar in style. I found a dress I loved and am happy with it. Was it my absolute dream dress, no, but it worked for me and I loved it.
Post # 4
First marriage: yes. I was in college and we paid for almost everything ourselves. Couldn’t afford much. I liked my dress a lot, it was beautiful and looked great on me, but wouldn’t have been the one I chose.
This time: elopement…yes as well, though I am completely happy with it. I don’t want to spend a lot, so I bought a little white strapless sundress from Macy’s. I’d like to have something maybe a little different, but I can’t find what I have in mind. This one fits and it is a good style for our venue (Texas hill country, cowboy boots, etc.).
Post # 5
I did. Because I could not fit in the size 10 sample gowns, my selection was limited, and I had to try to envision what I was going to look like in many of the dresses. I had a hard time finding anything that I liked. All I knew is that I wanted 100 percent silk, diamond-white/light ivory, ball gown, strapless, and some bling.
Since I knew I needed to order my gown about eight months in advance, when I finally tried on a dress that I didn’t dislike and that had most of the features I wanted, I started crying, assumed it was “THE” dress, and ordered it immediately. In hindsight, I wish I would have tried on a lot more dresses.
However, ultimately, I think I ended up with a gorgeous gown that met my qualifications, and I purchased it from THE best bridal salon in my area. I just don’t love some of my wedding pics because of some issues with the front of my dress, and, so that is why I sometimes end up regretting my choice.
I’m sure you will be able to find a gorgeous dress that is within your budget!
Post # 6
I kind of settled. My focus in my wedding planning was making sure guests were well taken care of. My dress was very low on my priority list. I ended up going to “the running of thebrides” it’s a famous event in Boston and other places around the country. I knew what type of dresses I liked and I was surprised to leave with something different than i wanted. My dress was gorgeous and had the elements I wanted ( even though it wasn’t the shape I wanted), but most of all it looked great on me.
At the end of the day I had to say” this dress is a great deal, it’s beautiful and it’s something I’m only wearing one day. “. It might be more than that to you. See if you can move around other items on your list to bump your dress up on the resources list if the dress is super important.
Im sure your gown is beautiful and you know you can rock it. Dont feel down about it. Your husband would love you in a giant paper bag if you wore it, and if he doesn’t then his loss. 😉
Post # 7
Sort of. I didn’t have 1 dream dress in mind, but I know there are dresses out there that I would like more than the one I have. But I got a great deal on it, it fits well and doesn’t need alterations, and I already have it, so good enough for me 🙂 I decided I like my dress and I will stop looking
Post # 8
I sort of did. I wrote about it here but no one read my post.
I’m obsessing over Maggie Sottero’s Rachel now. Might try to make it look like that now.
Journeying out of Dress Regret
Post # 9
@posh_princess: LOL thanks for that! That really cheered me up. I’m more of the offbeat bride and want something unique. I’m going to try on my dream dress Sat and hoping my mother would help me with it. I just want her to put the 25% deposit down or something. She doesn’t think this is the dress but I love this dress regardless of how anyone feels about it. Even used I cannot afford the dress or at least it would take me till Sept to come up with the money for it. This is a pic of the dress:
Post # 10
I did on my first dress shopping trip. Tried on about 12 dresses found one that actually looked good on me, saw my mother crying and purchased it. I then came back to the Bee posted it and thought “whew, that’s one thing down”.
Well after 2 days of looking at the photos that my family took, I realized I wasn’t THAT in love with it. It didn’t fit my theme and it was a more fun and playful dress so it didn’t match the very formal wedding that I am planning.
Thankfully the boutique where I purchased from hadn’t yet placed the order so I was able to come back in the following weekend and try on more dresses and that is when I found THE ONE. She is $800 over budget but my wonderful Fiance coughed up the money because he wanted me to feel beautiful on our day and he could hear the happiness in voice when I called to tell him that I really wanted this dress.
I didn’t cry, I didn’t get that bridal feeling but I laughed and danced and basically felt amazing in it, that’s how I knew she was the one. I purchased her, stood there while the shop placed the order and she should be here on 10/29 whoop!
Post # 11
I did settle on my dress. And I didn’t feel like dealing with selling it and buying a new one so I wore it.
Post # 12
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: I hate to hear about anyone walking down the aisle with something they aren’t in love with. From the beginning, I said if I don’t love it, it’s not going on my body. I haven’t changed that but my taste in dress has changed. This whole world of wedding has left me indecisive and confused about mostly everything. I guess I should have done alot more research into this wedding stuff before I started planning. Now I’m sitting here deciding if I want to continue with this wedding because I’m not really happy with the way things are going. I don’t know what’s going on with me. Nothing is really going the way I imagined it would.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2012 - El Faro Convention center, Aguadilla, Puerto Rico
I had my dress made from a local designer because I couldn’t afford any of the dresses I like. Did I love my dress? YES, Was it my absolute dream dres? s NO
Post # 14
@lindseyl06: Of course! We can’t always get what we want! I tend to let the deal rule my decisions, oh about 4 times regarding a dress.
I may not have been in LOVELOVELOVE with the gown (I do like it a whole lot), but I was in LOVE with the price more.
There is more than just ONE gown that can work as your weddin gown.
Post # 15
It feels goodto know that I am not alone in this. I totally settled on my gown. I tried on over 100 dresses and what I feel in love with, of course I couldn’t afford it. So the dress I purchased it nice but I know it’s not my first choice. It should be here in August, so I plan to to make some changes, and I pray that with all the changes it will make me feel better. Keeping my fingers crossed.
Post # 16
Is your dream dress one you could get a replica made of? I’m not super familiar with the China dresses, but it seems like most of the girls on here that order them from a a certain company are really happy with them (is it dressilyme?)