Post # 1
Did people ask you “was this planned” or “is your husband excited too?” when you told them you were expecting? Haha I am totally stunned by these questions by some people.
We are 31 years old and have been married for a little over a year. I just feel like “was this planned” is such a weird question…especially from people like co-workers. haha.
Post # 3
Asking if it was planned is just plain rude. To the “is your husband excited” questions, I’d say “Oh, he doesn’t know yet”.
Post # 4
People ask weird stuffashen it’s about babies. People keep asking me if my new son “is a good baby” I want to reply “no he’s anahold” just to see what they would say.
Post # 5
We had a woman at work whose standard question regarding pregnancy was “was it planned?”. She also made it widely known that her own kid was absolutely not planned and had ruined her life.
Post # 6
@AprilJo2011: omg!! that poor child!
Post # 7
@AprilJo2011: I feel sorry for that poor kid.
I find that people have no filter when it comes to babies or women being pregnant. Did you all know that heels are bad for pregnant women? I get told that on a daily basis by the same person at work b/c she asks me when I’m going to stop wearing my heels. When I tell her when I get uncomfortable wearing them, she informs me that they’re bad for pregnant women. Thanks for that tidbit…had no idea.
Post # 8
I feel like not telling everyone your trying is a double edged sword. We didn’t tell people because we didn’t want any pressure on it, but then I definitely felt as if people were wondering whether it was planned or not, which is annoying because we are over joyed and so excited. I have just decided people are idiots around pregnant women.
Post # 9
Yeah, I’ve gotten that question before too and you just have to stop and wonder. It’s like, we’ve been together for 5 years and have avoided pregnancy this long, I think we know what we’re doing – haha. But it’s true, people really have no filter. I’m 21 weeks and I’m still getting comments that I don’t look pregnant, just look like I ate a pizza and drank some beer. Um – thanks?
Post # 10
*holds up hand* i will fully admit Future Sister-In-Law told us she is expecting a few weeks ago, and i was super excited and the flood gates opened and i just couldn’t shut up with the questions. It was purely excitement though. It came from a good place i swear!!! hahaha
Post # 11
I just always ask, “Are you guys excited?” with a smile. However, I am younger and have had friends who got pregnant young and I have had several people say that they weren’t. So I always thought it was a good way not to gush if they aren’t happy and a good way to open it up if they are.
I don’t know why people can be so bad at wording questions, but I’m sure they don’t mean to be rude.
Post # 12
I consider it none of my business whether somebody’s baby was planned, so would never ask.
Post # 13
@Rose120: Yeah, we were worried for that kid, too. Especially when she brought it in one time 3 months after birth and asked my (childless) coworker if the milk she had warmed up for the kid was warm enough. Shouldn’t you know this yourself after 3 months?! Other quotes include “Of course I didn’t bring the baby on vacation with me! That wouldn’t have been a vacation if she was there!” and my personal favorite, “I wish I could go to jail, then I wouldn’t have to take care of the baby”. Luckily, she had a live-in nanny and the child looked fine whenever we saw her, so no apparent child abuse there, but come on!
I’m just waiting for someone to ask me that, actually, so I can reply “No, I slipped and fell on a d***.”
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens
I’ve gotten that question a few times but it doesn’t really bother me, since we got pregnant so soon after the wedding, I think it is a valid thing people might be wondering.
Post # 15
@Rose120: I’ve been asked that, but by far the worst question has come from my Brother-In-Law.
“Is this a good thing?”
Yeah…because if it weren’t, we’d be telling everyone about it, cray-cray dude.
I understand doctors asking this question, but it really stings coming from family and/or friends.
Post # 16
That to me is just a weird question to ask of married people. Because it doesn’t matter if it was planned or not most married couples plan to have a family one day. And then I think it is just plain rude to ask people you really don’t know all that well. It’s one thing to ask your sibling if you planned it because maybe you have discussed it in the past etc… but for a co-worker just weird and rude!
I get asked if I’m having twins. I’m big in the belly but it’s round like a basketball your baby boy type belly. I’m not big any where else and the belly isn’t all that big. So I’m not sure where that question is coming from.