(Closed) Was this rude? I think I offended the new parents…

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: How bad was it?
    Ouch, big mistake : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Awkward but it could have gone either way : (30 votes)
    37 %
    She maybe overreacted : (44 votes)
    54 %
    I bet she doesn't even remember next time : (5 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    2213 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    It doesn’t seem to me like that big of a faux pas, especially since you explained after that you were kidding.  I would try not to worry about it.  It’s not like you told her you hated the name they chose for their baby.

    Also – this totally sounds like something I would do.  Try too hard and then feel like a dope when I don’t get the response I was hoping for.  Sometimes it works out, and sometimes it doesn’t!  😛

    Post # 4
    Member
    1408 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I think it would highly depend on your tone but i dont think what you said was overly rude or anything

    Post # 5
    Member
    900 posts
    Busy bee

    I can see how she could have taken that the wrong way, even though I know you were joking. Awkward but nothing to sweat about! Just a miscommunication!

    Post # 6
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    2334 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @edgebee:  god people are too sensitive these days!!!! like if i name my child Cameron, my friend cant name her baby Connor? i dont think you did or said anything wrong. id say preggo hormones are rampid still haha!

    Post # 7
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    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    New babies are exhausting. Sometimes when I’m tired, I don’t always catch when people are just kidding with me and take them at face value.

    But you explained you were kidding. I think that’s all you really can do.

    Post # 8
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    2876 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    No offence, but thats a really strange comment

    If someine said to me “but i want  to name my nonexistent baby with that letter” id look at them like they were mad and point out there were othrr names. And then give them a doubly odd look if they said it was a joke

    Post # 10
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    7872 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It depends on the tone of voice and the person. I would have laughed it off, but I know lots of people who’d take it the wrong way. By the way, there’s nothing stopping you using the same name anyway. Someone I knew (not super close) had her first child a month before mine and used the name we’d chosen. We stuck with our chosen name anyway. Even less of a problem in your case where any future baby of yours will be at least 9 months younger 🙂

    For future reference, keep it all complimentary, saying things like “what a beautiful baby” and “what a beautiful name”.

    Post # 11
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    2204 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Take it as a lesson learned. Making comments, even jokes, about a baby’s name and the suggestion that they took it from someone else is a super sensitive subject.

    dont forget, new moms are full of hormones, running on little to no sleep. picking up on an odd joke isn’t high on her priority list. 

    Post # 12
    Hostess
    12103 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    that’s totally something I would do – I say things that totally come out the wrong way ALL the time!

    I love that name, i mean not for my kid but it’s a great name!

     

    I think I told my sister that i liked her e-ring more than I thought I would when I first saw it in person b/c when she saw mine she said that to me about mine about a dozen times, all i would have meant is that the photos don’t do it justice but clearly whatever i said came out wrong!

    Post # 13
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    6746 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    i think she overreacted – sounds like she was sensitive about the baby name and anticipating negative responses to begin with considering she kept it a secret til the baby was born – so i think that no matter what you said, she would have thought it was somehow insulting lol..

    Post # 14
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    9956 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    As others have said, it is all about the tone…

    But to be fair, New Parents are ALWAYS uber-sensitive…

    For Moms it is a surge of hormones (factual) and for Dads it is all about the Male Ego (look what I made, and I shall protect the honour of my new family to the end) sort of thing

    Not a good mix…

    Best bets are always to say nice things and nothing controversial… or that could anyway be seen as a slight particularly against the “innocent’ babe in arms.

    So ya, making comments about the Chosen Name wasn’t the best…

    But they’ll get by it.

    Lesson learned.

     

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