(Closed) Was this rude or what?

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

call her!  that is really horrible if she decided to not invite you however…especially if you made the invites!  Maybe she already counted you as coming, since she already knew you were and you did the invites?  Why didn’t she show up to yours?

Post # 5
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Before you really get mad at her, make sure it wasn’t lost in the mail or something.

Just have the mutual friend mentioned that she spoke to you and you didn’t have an invite yet.  If you were supposed to get one, she’ll get in touch with you.  If you’re not invited the mutual friend can pass that on.

Post # 6
2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Since she verbally invited you and you had access to the invites, she probably just assumed you kept one for yourself. I bet you’re invited and it’s all a misunderestanding. I would call her and tell her you hope her verbal invitation still stands, and I bet she says yes.

Post # 7
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would say that you are invited and something has either happened to the invite or she just thinks you know.


Now, why didn’t she come to your wedding? 

Post # 8
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

never send a nasty email until you know ths story! You may regret it later! 🙂

Call her and calmly ask if she sent an invitation. Give her the benefit of doubt, and allow her to explain. Maybe it was lost in the mail. Maybe she forgot about your request to send one. Etc. Don’t sound confrontational – that always makes people defensive. You want to know the truth, so be as open as possible. Then, you can choose whether it’s something to get mad over or not.

And while you’re talking to her, ask why she didn’t attend your wedding after she rsvp’ed she’d attend.

Post # 9
25 posts

I would say call her for sure. I did a friends invites and we never got them, but they had noted us as a yes for everything.

In addition I sent out my invites well over three weeks ago. Today the 5th is my RSVP deadline. Today in the mail I got two invites returned. One is my grandparents who never mentioned they didn’t get an invite and good friends of ours who I am sure think I am completely rude for inviting them to my shower but not to my wedding. They live in the same city as us too so this is super annoying. However I had no idea that some people didn’t get invites no one said anything to me.

Call her, especially if she is as good a friend as you say! 

Post # 10
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I’d call her. Probably she just thought that you didn’t need an invite since you designed them.  She’s clueless, but I wouldn’t go off on her just yet.

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