Post # 1
I took my dress to be altered to this amazing woman who worked on an all lace dress for my mom a few years back. With the detailing and amount of work on my moms lace dress I thought of her for my wedding dress. My wedding dress is simple and not nearly as difficult to alter as my moms lace dress was.
However, I got to the shop and my mom helped me in my dress. I came out and she didn’t fully close me in the corset back. So I’m standing in front of the mirror and the alterations woman is just standing there. I guess I’m waiting for her to do her thing but she’s just standing. I think my mom got the hint when I kept looking at her and said “So what would you do with this?” and the alterations woman turned to me and said “What do you want done?” I was just like WHAT! I turned to her and told her i wasn’t sure that I was hoping she could tell me what needs to be done. She told me I only needed to have the sides taken in and a 3 point bustle and she’ll charge me $50.
Does anyone else think it’s weird that I was asked what I wanted to do with it? Not being a seamstress I have no freaking clue and thought the seamstress would tell ME.
Post # 3
Not really. The first thing mine asked me was what I needed done – however, that was before I even got into my dress. I just told her it was a bit too big, especially on top. I got changed, then she got in there with her pins and showed me what she would do. I mean, some girls want extensive work done to their gown – changing the neckline, etc. I think it’s good she asked rather than just starting in with her own opinions.
Post # 4
@cirrus:Ok good so I’m not the only one. I guess I thought it was strange because honestly I didn’t know what needed to be taken in/our,hemmed/not hemmed so I thought she would tell me these things. I can see your point though of people changing lots of things about their dress.
Post # 5
I think thats normal. There are many things you may want done to a wedding dress. Take it in, sew in cups, bustle (many different styles), change neckline, change zipper to corset, etc. I mean she could probably obviously see that it needed to be taken in but it makes sense for her to ask what you want done.
Post # 6
I think its normal and nice for her to ask what you want done with the dress. My seamstress wouldnt even hear me out at 1st and wanted to do everything her way.
Post # 7
@ENarcy: I don’t think it’s that strange – some brides want sleeves added or removed, some want the neckline altered, some want the back changed. SO to me it makes sense that she wanted to know what you needed done.
Reminds me of an awkward moment at m venue though. I had previously only checked it out alone, and was coming in to basically redo that appointment, this time with my Fiance and parents (who are paying for the venue) so that they could see it and we could sign the forms. We all sit down in the office and the lady is like, “So I’m not sure exactly what we’re doing today…” Yeah, that was an awkward moment, I had told her on the phone exactly what we were doing! But they do see a lot of brides every day, keep that in mind.
Post # 8
I think some seamstresses are used to brides coming in with all guns blazing talking about this and that that must be changed. She’s not the designer or the bride, so she probably assumed you knew how you wanted it fitted. Doesn’t sound like anything to worry about, since you just wanted it fitted and she sounds talented enough to handle it — no big deal.
Post # 10
That’s good in a way she did that. My seamstress saw me as soon as I came out and started pinning and tucking all over the place, and now I will have a $500 plus bill. I almost think she is doing too much work to drive up my cost. Yours seems very conservative and your cost is a steal!
Post # 11
Yeah, I find that to be pretty normal.
Post # 12
Sounds normal to me, she had no way of knowing if you wanted other things as well as the bodice altered.
Post # 13
That seems normal. My seamstress let me lead the consultation, and that is how I wanted it to be. I wanted what I wanted. She of course offered her professional opinions and suggestions based on what I wanted, and what she felt would work best with the gown. I think that is the way it normally goes.
Post # 14
Sounds about right to me. I told my seamstress what I wanted done with the neckline and such and then she made her suggestions as well.