Was told having guests RSVP on website is cheap and tacky?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: RSVP on wedding website?

    Just do it, if people think that low of doing it online, that's on them.

    No, don't do it. Spend the money on paper RSVP and go the traditional route.

    It doesn't matter, and anyone who thinks it does obviously has weird priorities.

  • Post # 46
    962 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

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    yourhandinmine :  im torn between #1 and #3 

    We did paper invites from Vistaprint during their 50% off sale. Simple ones simple piece of paper (thick paper) no extra inserts or other fluff. And we did online RSVP, we had a wedding website. Half the people didnt reply by RSVP date anyways and we had to chase them around. Save your money and save the environment. 

    Post # 47
    1292 posts
    Bumble bee

    It’s 2018. Online RSVP’s should not be a scandal. 

    If online is your preference then that is what you should do.  In fact, I’d start setting boundaries right now, I”d assume that if the rsvp format is an issue then there is a lot more that’s going to be an issue.  Set boundaries and stand firm now.   

    Post # 48
    2466 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    We offered both options and I will say I am suprised how many i’ve been getting back in the actual mail. We’ve only gotten a couple on our website. 

    Post # 49
    703 posts
    Busy bee

    Online RSVPs are quicker and easier. They also don’t waste paper. Do the online form. 

    Post # 50
    443 posts
    Helper bee

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    yourhandinmine :  this is is NO WAY saying you shouldn’t have an RSVP on your website cause I think it’s cool BUT as you know weddings are expensive parties and even though brides over the recent years have found ways to do different and unique weddings, it’s still an expensive party and SHOULD be classy. It’s a formal event. So people expect formal invites which would be on paper and sent through the mail. It makes the guest feel special to open it and see beautiful calligraphy and people keep them for keepsakes sometimes especially parents. Not saying it’s not an old tradition. That’s just why. You’ll be in a beautiful dress, at a beautiful venue, having a beautiful wedding, people want to see a beautiful invitation. Personally I was thinking about having a wedding website with all the information and the ability to RSVP online however I was still going to send out paper invites because I want it to set the tone for the formality of my wedding. *shrugs* 🙂 

    Post # 51
    1012 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

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    missmonroe711 :  1) Who says her wedding is formal? 2) What does paper invitations have to do with RSVP method? 

    Post # 52
    11376 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    You know what else is even worse etiquette than what they are accusing you of? Pointing out someone else’s etiquette faux pas. 

    They are being ruder than they think you’re being.

    Its 2018. If people can’t figure out how to RSVP on a website, they have larger problems. 

    Post # 53
    9 posts
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I had people rsvp either by a card supplied or a Facebook message. Nobody complained as they understood our budget. 


    If people don’t like it, that’s their choice. But it’s your day, set it up how you feel 😁

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