Post # 1
So I just read the thread about fears not being able to conceive, and it got me thinking about my own experience. Now this isn’t to scare anyone, just sharing my own experience and wondering if anyone else could relate. I have only told 2 of my friends this (and my husband+mothers), and I guess I am looking to share this/vent, etc. since I feel like I have been harboring it inside. Kind of long…
A year ago I had a heterotopic pregnancy. One was in my uterus, the other in my tube (ectopic). Well I ended up losing both (the tubal was a given and the one in my uterus was a “natural miscarriage”). I didn’t even know I had a double pregnancy until I had to go to the e.r. for an emergency operation b/c my tube had ruptured (for several days…and miraculously formed a blood clot about 3″ around..I assume this is what saved me). We were of course thankful that I was alive, but on the other hand, very saddened to hear that I would probably never be able to conceive naturally (was told the morning after surgery, still in hospital bed). She said the tube I had left, the fimbriae was severely scarred and is probably not even functioning properly. I was encouraged to remove the other tube, but I am refusing at this point (holding onto hope…for a miracle?). I still think about it often, and tear up every time. I think…what if those twins were my only chance of having children? Will I be able to have children even with ivf? We have talked about adopting and will love as our own, but still heartbreaking as we are still a young couple (both 25). Anyway, just venting b/c today I am saddened by it again 🙁
My husband has been super supportive, and i thank God that I have him…
Post # 3
I’m so sorry you had to go through this. Is there a good chance you might be able to conceive with IVF? I know a lot of people that it helped. I personally have been told that I might have trouble conceiving naturally due to hormonal issues but would respond to fertility treatments, and I do have this fear sometimes too. I hope it works out for you.
Post # 4
I am so sorry! I can’t imagine what you are going through. IVF still sounds like a great option for you though. Hopefully it will be easier than you think and things will go well.
Why are they encouraging you to have the second tube removed?
Post # 5
You should probably go see another doctor if you have concerns. At the age of 18 I was told I could never have kids. I was devastated. About 6 months later… I found out I had concieved a child, but wouldn’t be able to hold the child. I made it full term. My chances now of having a child are slim to none.
Maybe a second opinion will be more reasurring. Sorry for your loss and hope everything works out for you. P.S. I wouldnt remove the other tube, those tubes are your only chances at concieving and IF there is a possiblity, then I say keep it in place.
Post # 6
I was diagnosed with PCOS about 3 years ago and was also told i would have a hard time conceiving because my body doesn’t release eggs normally.
Post # 7
@DIY Rae: I think you confused this post with the other one…she already saw a doctor and already has a diagnosis.
For the OP, thank you for sharing your story! It takes courage to commit something like that to paper, and to share it online takes a lot. THANK YOU. I hope that even with the odds against you that you are still able to get your miracle if you so desire.
Post # 8
chugnplug: First welcome to the bee hun and then I’m so sorry to hear about this situation but I’m so glad that you are ok physically. Emotionally your probably not so ok but I just came thru to give you so words of encouragement.
My cousin had and ectopic pregnancy and they had to remove one of her tubes. She now has a 2 year old little boy. While it may have taken her a little while longer to concieve, she still did naturally. So there is hope hun.
Best of luck!
Post # 9
Oh i’m sorry to hear this. But if your tube is damaged, hold out hope because there are good chances with newer implantation techniques. They can “bypass” your tubes. Find a doctor whose willing to work with you as much as you want to.
Even if you can’t conceive naturally, you can still have a family. My advice to everyone is to go see a reproductive endocrinologist or fertility specialist. Seeing one opened my eyes to all the techniques available (some as research!!!) and really calmed my fears and helped me realize there are more options than I initially thought.
Post # 10
There are so many options these days (and more by the day) that I would just take things as they come and see what happens and not try to get too focused on the outcome (easy to say, right?). We too were told that conceiving naturally was an unlikely possibility to us, but things turned out very differently.
My medical problem is different than yours, so things are probably not going to happen for you just like they did for me, but however it happens it will happen (since you are open to adoption).
I’m wishing you the best and am hopeful for a great outcome for you (whether that means IVF, adoption, or something else).