Post # 17
@laur371: I reeeeally wanted to help pick it, I am so picky with jewellery and I wanted to love my rings. Lucky for me, DH asked me to show him what sort of rings I liked. Then we ended up going shopping together and I picked out exactly the one I wanted. It’s been over a year and I still think it is the exact right one. 🙂
I don’t think I would have been that much worse off if he picked it out on his own. Sometimes I wonder what he would have chosen on his own. He’s a simple kinda guy when it comes to design, so my money would be on a solitaire. The only problem with that would have been the size I’d like for a solitaire would have been big bucks! I did try one on that I liked… It was $21000!!! Quadruple our budget. Nope nope nope!
Post # 18
I had absolutely no clue. He never asked me ANY questions. He designed it all by himself, and even somehow got my RHR to the jeweler for sizing without me noticing (I wear it every single day). Very sneaky this one.
I think I am in the minority on this one, but maybe this thread will prove me wrong!
Post # 19
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@laur371: no, we’re custom making mine.
Post # 20
@laur371: We picked the centre stone together and some of the design detail, but some was left completely up to him. The actual proposal was a total surprise:)
Post # 21
for me the romance lays within the proposal. as long as he doesn’t get the ring and says “here ya go”, you should be good. it’s a ring that you’re gonna be wearing for a long time so you can atleast give him some input through pictures or atleast write down what you want so he can take it to the store…
Post # 22
I’m one of the few who picked out my engagement ring after he proposed, and I couldn’t be happier! 🙂
Fiance wanted to be absolutely sure I would love my ring in every way, but I wanted the proposal to include the reveal of a ring in a velvet box. We thought of what I think was the perfect compromise: He would propose with something whimsical and inexpensive, and he went with the dragon ring in my profile pic, and I love it! And I also loved going with him to the jeweler after we were engaged.
I think most women in the US put in at least a little bit of input nowadays 🙂
Post # 23
We’ve never been the mushy romantic type of couple. My SO solicited advice from my family/friends, and that advice was that I was picky, independent, and stubborn so the best bet was letting me choose my own ring. He proposed without the ring, and we went shopping together the next day. For me, that was the very best thing he could’ve possibly done.
Post # 24
@laur371: I think it depends on your and your SO’s preference.
I would prefer to be heavily involved, personally. In my mind, ideally we would choose a ring together after the proposal. I am picky and would like to choose my own ring.
Post # 25
No way! Once DH and I had seriously decided it was time for us to get engaged he and I went to look at rings. He know all too well that I have very particular tastes, and I could dislike something simply because x-factor wasn’t just right, when to DH the rings looked nearly identical.
I don’t wear rings except for my e-ring and wedding bands. I told DH he could have proposed with the ring, it didn’t matter to me. It wasn’t as if the proposal came as a surprise to me either way (only thing that was a surprise was the when and how – in our kitchen after a dinner date after we’d already changed in to our pjs and slippers, and he plugged his phone into the speakers, played our song, lit candles and proposed. Certainly wasn’t expecting him to propose to me like that, so it was a very pleasent surprise!) so having or not having the ring was unimportant! DH, however, wanted the moment of proposing and slipping the ring on my finger, so we agreed to go pick one out.
Randomly enough, I fell in LOVE with a ring that was not even 1/6 of our budget, but I knew right then and there that it was the ONLY ring for me. Plus, I thought DH had set a ridiculous number (and I believe he was fooled by the 3-months salary rule, but he’ll never cop to it) and there was no way in heck I was going to let him spend that much on a ring. I’d never leave the house with it, heck, I doubt I’d take it out of the safe!
Post # 26
@laur371: I had told FH that I liked princess cut stones, way before we knew we wanted to get married. That was pretty much it. I do know that he asked my mom for her opinion when he had a ring picked out, though.
Post # 27
I’m a go-getter type of person and I value the empowerment of women. So of course I went the untraditional way and proposed to my man 😉 I had an engagement band for HIM…and then I went and picked out my own engagement ring myself after my proposal. We basically paid for our rings together. I love the symbol of engagement rings but for me both partners have to wear them. And either way, it would have been an absolute must that I be involved in choosing my ring…it’s too important that I love it and that it suits my style 😉
Post # 28
@laur371: I had no clue that he was shopping let alone proposing, mine was a complete surprise. Even more surprising is that he did the shopping entirely on his own without ANY input from friends or family. As much as it would have been kind of cool to pick it out with him, I am so glad that it was a complete surprise. He is WAY more picky than me so I probably ended up getting something better than I may have picked myself. As for not wanting him to spend too much – I feel like that is up to him. Yes, our finances may be intertwining soon but I honestly don’t want to know how much he spent. (Which has actually made it very uncomfortable for me since I need to insure it.) He knows me well enough to know what I like and spent what he felt comfortable investing so I couldn’t be more happy.
Post # 29
I am a type A jewelery psycho and my man knows it. He gave me a budget and I designed the ring. Now we just need to get engaged! Lol
Post # 30
My proposal was a complete surprise, but he used a placeholder ring to do it. He knows how particular I am about jewelry, plus we have opposite tastes. I actually did most of my ring shopping alone or with friends. Fiance hates shopping and I love shopping by myself, so it was perfect. I’d show him pics and get his opinion, of course, but that was about it.
Post # 31
Kind of. We picked out the setting together -he asked me to help him, I didn’t offer. He said since I’d be wearing it everyday and he was shelling out a lot of money on it, he wanted it to be something I would LOVE.
So, we picked out the setting together, but I told him I didn’t want to have a say in the center because I felt that should be just him, whatever he could afford. He blew me away with a gorgeous, great quality, 2 carat center.
So I knew what the setting would look like, but I didn’t know how big my center stone was or the quality of the stone prior to engagement.