Was your engagement a surprise?

posted 2 months ago in Engagement
  • poll: Was your engagement a complete surprise?
    No, I knew when he was going to propose and I chose the ring : (7 votes)
    13 %
    No, because I chose the ring. Didn't know when he would propose : (16 votes)
    30 %
    Not really. I had some say in what ring he got : (9 votes)
    17 %
    Not really; he told me or hinted that he will propose soon. He chose the ring. : (5 votes)
    9 %
    Not really; we had a timeline. He chose the ring : (3 votes)
    6 %
    Yes : (9 votes)
    17 %
    Other : (4 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 2
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    Voted ‘other’ because we never had a proposal. Husband and I decided we wanted to get married through text one day, so obviously no rings. Went to the courthouse two weeks later and I bought my own ring as a ‘engagement’ ring after the fact.

    Post # 3
    4094 posts
    Honey bee

    He knew what ring I wanted but other than that, I had no idea when or where. saturnian :  

    Post # 4
    84 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    We decided to get married together a few months ago. We’re in the process of designing a ring together. He’s deadset on wanting to propose, so i’m going with the flow… even though it’s fairly unnecessary since he already knows I want to marry him. The second anything is out of the ordinary I’m gonna know what’s happening instantly lol

    Post # 5
    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    My fiancé knew I wanted Asscher cut and simple, that’s all the input I gave and we obviously spoke about marriage and went looking at loose diamonds but nothing was picked, he chose another diamond and I had no clue what it looked like or when/where.

    Post # 6
    37 posts

    I picked out my engagement ring so I knew it was coming, just didn’t know when. My fiance wanted to surprise me though and his way of doing that was to pretend he was proposing to me multiple times (à la Jim from ‘The Office’). When the time actually came I was genuinely surprised and thought he was just joking around until he got out the ring! A lot of people think it’s silly when they hear the story but for us it was absolutely perfect!

    Post # 7
    636 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2019

    I knew he wanted to marry me but didn’t know when to expect a proposal or what to expect for the ring. 😊

    Post # 8
    1448 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I think those who have a “complete surprise proposal” fall into one general category:

    Too young and/or immature to have an adult conversation about getting married.

    Post # 9
    3089 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2006

    mrsdogmama0618 :  Sounds like us! Had a conversation, went and picked the ring out together, and I started wearing it once it came back from being sized. I never got an “official” proposal I guess you could say. I don’t understand this whole making your SO wait years when you have the ring because you want some big fairy tale to-do. Makes zero sense to me. Why put your partner through that agony? 

    Post # 10
    9680 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    We had been together 7 years and went ring shopping together so I definitely knew an engagement was coming. I actually wasn’t expecting it at all the weekend he did it so I was surprised by the timing.

    Post # 11
    715 posts
    Busy bee

    I designed the ring and thought he’d propose around Christmas because we had a trip to NYC planned, but he ended up proposing the Sunday before Thanksgiving and totally surprised me

    Post # 12
    607 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2018

    We designed the ring together, but a ‘suprise’ proposal was important to him. I didn’t feel it was necessary and I definitely had a hunch about when it would happen. It was a very lovely moment in the end and I’m glad I had the special moment of hearing all that I meant to him and why he wanted me to be his wife. 🙂

    I find total surprise proposals weird. Like, it shouldn’t be up to one partner to decide when it’s time to get married. If you can’t have a conversation about it you’re not ready.

    Post # 13
    3444 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    I voted other because there was no proposal. We discussed getting married and when we decided we were ready we just considered ourselves engaged from them on. We got a ring several months later.

    Post # 14
    16 posts
    • Wedding: January 2018

    My proposal was a complete surprise but we had already discussed marriage beforehand. I didnt know he had brought a ring or was even looking. When he was getting down on one knee, I still didn’t know what was going on until he pulled the box out. 

    Post # 15
    30 posts
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I voted other as we had been together for 7 years, had talked about marriage and were going on an amazing trip for my birthday so I had suspicions of when it could be.

    He got the ring and chose it all himself, which I love 😍 

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