(Closed) Was your engagement a surprise?

posted 10 years ago in Rings
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  • Post # 3
    1722 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We had talked about marriage for a while so I knew it was coming sooner or later.  We went on vacation and wanted to see a spot we had visited before at sunset.  He was getting kind of nervous so I kind of figured it was either going to be that night or on the trip and he indeed proposed that night.  He picked out a beautiful ring but had picked it out as a stand in ring and we picked out my ring together a few months later when he could afford what he really had wanted to get me.

    Post # 4
    1176 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I knew that a proposal was coming, but I didn’t know when.  I thought it would be at Christmas, or on New Year’s Eve, which is when we first met.  Instead, he proposed on December, 20th, which is his birthday, on top of the Empire State Building.  He knew that I never would have been expecting it on that day of all days.  He picked out the ring on his own, and it was perfect, and so me!

    Post # 5
    154 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We are in an LDR, so a complete surprise would have almost been impossible. We talked about out future plans a lot and he even asked me what types of rings I like. So I was pretty sure that he would ask during his next visit- which he did! <3

    Post # 6
    20 posts
    • Wedding: May 2012

    It would have been a total surprise for me if he didn’t keep hinting that he was going to give me a “present” on our vacation. He even put on our itinerary where he was going to give it to me. (My favorite – the Lincoln Memorial in DC) ๐Ÿ™‚ I figured he was going to propose considering my birthday was before our trip and he refused to give me my present then. Although I sometimes wish I hadn’t figured it out, it was still absolutely amazing!

    Post # 7
    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    It was planned-ish. I knew it was coming but not which ring or which day ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 8
    1523 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I’d say yes.  He had been telling me he intended to marry me from the very beginning.  Since neither of us was in a rush I wasn’t expecting a proposal any time soon.  One day we came home, sat at the kitchen table for coffee, and he proposed. Since I wasn’t expecting it I would say it was a surprise.  He had not planned it.  I suppose something moved him to propose.  So I guess you could say he was surprised too! lol!  There was no ring.  We later went ring shopping and looked online to pick an ering.  

    Post # 9
    3292 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Complete surprise here. I mean, we had said that we wanted to be together long-term, but we never discussed rings, ring sizes, engagement timelines, anything like that. 

    I was happy having it be a surprise, but I know a lot of women would hate it. 

    Post # 10
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Neither! My fiance purchased a ring without me knowing, however I moved in around the same time and he had the bills coming to the house. I pretty much knew at that point. I wish I could have been surprised.

    Post # 11
    6377 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I knew. We shopped for and purchased the ring together so I knew it was coming soon. Fiance planned a lovely evening but made the mistake of telling his family about it. His mom ended up spilling the beans during a phone call that she didn’t realize was on speaker. Fiance was devastated but said that he had waited long enough to propose (we had been together for more than 5 years at this point) and he was going through with his plans.

    Would I have liked for the surprise to not be ruined? Absolutely but I have a great man who loves me so being slightly bummed about the engagement really isn’t a big deal. However, I loved being involved in my ring selection and that I wouldn’t change for the world. 

    Post # 12
    911 posts
    Busy bee

    We talked about marriage a few times, but it was always IF. I had kind of hoped he would propose after I finished my course (which was this spring) so I could just find a job where we’ll be living. But, realistically, I figured he’d want to wait a few more years for a few reasons. Needless to say, I was quite surprised when he got down on one knee and pulled out a ring box in Feb… but that was how he wanted it.

    We never looked at rings, nor did I ever mention what I’d want in an engagement ring (I don’t wear jewelry except for a necklace), but he must know me pretty well because he got EXACTLY what I wanted. He apparently spent months and months researching cuts, color, clarity, etc and found the perfect one. Gotta love him!

    Post # 13
    917 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    ok, i voted “surprise” and i’m not engaged yet, lol.  it’s somewhere in the middle.  we’ve discussed it, he bought a ring (and i know about it, we discussed that too), but when it happens is entirely up to him, and will be a surprise in that respect.  i’ll see a photo of the ring when it’s finished (and probably post it here to show it off), but i won’t see it in person until it’s on my finger sometime next fall.  we agreed he should pay it off before i get to wear it, lol.  (for the record, i did NOT condone the use of his credit card that he’d just paid off to pay for it!)

    Post # 14
    494 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Sort of? I had a lot of input on the ring, and I had found out that the diamond had been set when the designer posted it on their facebook page and it showed up in my feed (here). Yet I still had no idea where the ring was (designer could’ve still had it for all I know). Then when he actually proposed, I missed seeing the box waiting for me and he had to point it out (here). So I knew it was coming eventually, so in that sense it wasn’t a surprise (which I preferred), but when it actually happened I had no idea it was happening. Which cracks me up to think of since I had been on high alert the whole cruise, thinking/hoping it was coming. But as soon as I let my guard down, BAM, proposal!

    Post # 15
    1884 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Complete surprise, we had talked about marriage a little here and there, we knew that’s the direction we were heading in, but he kept playing it off like it was going to be a while still and that he wasn’t quite ready… Early on I had sent him a link to the style of ring that I liked and that was all that was said about it.  A few months later completely out of the blue he proposed with the exact ring in the link. ๐Ÿ™‚

    I was COMPLETELY surprised, even though everyone and their mother (and my mother ;)) knew it was going to happen.

    Post # 16
    146 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Ours was technically planned. We went ring shopping together. I picked out the setting and cut. He went back and dealt with the 3 other C’s at another time without me. I had no idea when he was going to get it. I actually found out he had it a whole month before proposing. Brat!

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