Was your ex-husband difficult about divorcing?

posted 6 months ago in Married Life
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

Amy Elizabeth :  oh bee, I’ve been there.

My ex husband was extremely difficult. He wasn’t the best husband to begin with, but when we separated he became the worst person imaginable. He completely ghosted and left me with no money, no communication, left our debts behind for me to deal with and had zero input in divorce proceedings. I had to pay for everything myself. Luckily I was able to figure out where his new job was (thanks for posting that selfie on your public IG in your work uniform!) and that he was living with his parents for a while (I know where they live). 

He randomly reached out to me 6 months later and tried to manipulate me into getting back together with him saying he missed/loved me BUT “he would only start taking responsibility for his part of the debt if we got back together but otherwise, I’m on my own”. Get TF outta here! 

If he doesn’t work, is there a good chance he’s living with his parents? 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

Just saw your comment about him subletting.

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Reach out to him to set a meeting to “talk” and then have him served when he shows up. You don’t have to be there. You can also serve him yourself in person if you do decide to meet up. 

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Amy Elizabeth :  

Ask your lawyer because it may be state specific, but you should be able to do it yourself (though he might have to sign something, whereas he wouldn’t if a third party did it). 

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Absolutely do not serve the papers yourself. He’s abusive. I can’t believe more than one person gave you that terrible advice. If you absolutely have to, set up a meeting and have the process server show up. But you should stay far away.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Ugh, you never know how difficult they’ll be until they’ve done it. We’re officially divorced and I haven’t talked to him except in court in about 8 years. He’s still gunning for me and will occasionally sue me, twice last year. Typically over things he’s made up and is trying to get me charged with something so that I’ll “pay” for what I did to him (left after he cheated and was abusive). I can’t even keep track of all the times I’ve been in a legal battle with him, I have stopped hiring a lawyer though because his cases are so weak I don’t need any legal training to knock holes in them. All over a 3 year relationship where we really didn’t have anything financially. Keep it through the lawyer and get away as clean as you can and don’t let him bully you. There are ways to get him served as pps have mentioned, do that, don’t let him bully you bc you care about moving on with your life and he’s fine with being a wreck.

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