(Closed) Was your first love more intense than your current love?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

ceebee05:  Lovely post and I feel the same way. My toxic relationship with my ex had more butterflies and excitement than my beginning of my relationship with my now husband, but I wouldn’t trade the comfort, trust, honesty, respect and love I feel with my husband for anything. Because with that excitement with my ex then came 6+ months of walking on eggshells when the excitement wore off – and then it became toxic.

I love feeling safe and supported in my relationship. No fireworks needed, just love.

Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Lol, my Fiance IS my first real love, and we will finally be married on our 20th anniversary of being together ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

stephie08:  No problem, as a fellow jealous lady I feel you. Lol :p but how long have you both been together, not married but been together? Was Darling Husband your first real love?

Post # 49
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Helper bee

I feel like you can’t really compare your “first” love to your lasting love. My first boyfriend, I think I thought I loved him, but after being with and creating an entire life with my husband, I can’t really even compare the two. It’s apples and oranges.

Post # 50
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Busy bee

When I look back to my first “love” now I don’t really think it was love. I was too immature to know what love was. They’re almost not comparable considering  how shallow my first love was compared to my Fiance and I now.

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I would say my first love was more “Intense” but a lot of that was being a teenager, and everything being emotional to the max all the time. Also we were sort of in a situation where we knew at one point he’d be moving to another country so that really put the whole star crossed lovers thing into play at the time. Do I still feel that way about him? NO. lol But we ened on good terms and I wish him the best. I feel like the love I have now is more mature, and sustainable and healthy. But I would say it’s less “intense” 

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Yes, my first love was more intense than my current one, but it’s not a bad thing I don’t think. My first “love” was when I was an early teenager and my boyfriend was in our equestrian club. His parents didn’t approve of me (essentially they didn’t want him dating anyone but a nice, modest, catholic girl, and although I’m not “unwholesome” I’m not their idea of a match). He was chivalrous, a gentleman, and kind of a knight in shining armor (as much as you could be when you couldn’t quite drive). It was just all exciting. We’re still friends and I think we’ll always feel an affection toward one another, but we both know it’s nothing more than having that history and wanting to be there for each other as friends. I still love him and care about him – but not in that way. He’s happily married with two babies and I’m happy he’s happy ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 54
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

At the time, it felt super intense, but in relation to everything else and my love for Fiance, it wasn’t that intense. My love for my Fiance is much stronger than any other relationship I have had. 

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

No. No other relationship I’ve ever been in is even comparable to how I love Fiance. 

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Yes, but only because I had less self control then and felt that I “needed” him. I’ve since learned and grown a lot, so I don’t have an unhealthy attachment to my husband like I did with my first love. 

Post # 57
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Yes, I would say so for me. But looking back it wasn’t love it was lust and obsession. I had never been in a relationship before and as PP has said it was that I needed him and what he was giving me and it was unhealthy.

 

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

stephie08:  Gotcha, I don’t think you need to be jealous. Time cures jealousy and being confident in your love for each other! Discuss your insecurities if need be, and affirm your love. ๐Ÿ™‚ Communicating your feelings (without being obsessive!) is helpful for you to work out your thoughts and for Darling Husband to learn where he can maybe help to build you up. Marriage is different than any past relationship. It is true team work and so much more deeper and intimate on an emotional level. Remember that you got to marrg him! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 60
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Helper bee

My “first love” was more intense, but it was more like infatuation based on youth and raging hormones. I’m not sure I knew what romantic love really was back then.

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