(Closed) Was your husband super annoying during labor?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Baby's dad... annoying during labor or no?
    Nope! He was great : (21 votes)
    64 %
    Kind of annoying but I don't blame him. : (7 votes)
    21 %
    SUPER annoying : (3 votes)
    9 %
    he wasn't there : (2 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    He did towards the end, actually.

    His brother is a baseball player (just drafted to the majors WOOHOO!!) and was in college at the time. He was playing in a major tournament that was being aired on ESPN the day I was at the height of labor (I was in labor for 2 days).

    Well, around hour 18 I was in so much pain I was hallucinating and he wanted to LEAVE and go home to see the game because the hospital didn’t get the channel. I had no one at the hospital with me during labor, no friends or family. I was recording the game on the DVR at our house and his father was recording it as well. I was so hurt. He was leaving and a nurse brought him outside and said “You had better get your ass back in that room right now.”

    He did. And he still apologizes profusely to this day, he feels really bad about it. Other than that, he was really great.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee

    Haha this question cracks me up.  I’ve still got 2 months left and I’m wondering about this.  He is great about stepping up to the plate but he is a hyperactive man and I have no idea what he’s going to do with himself in a small room if I have a long labor.  The chairs to sleep on look sooooooooo uncomfortable when we went to visit, I’m kinda dreading it because I’m going to be tired and exhausted but want him to stay with me but I don’t think he’s going to be able to sleep on a crappy chair so he’s going to be tired and exhausted.  Hmmmm, I donno.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @KatyElle: WHHHHAAAAAAT? Um, yes, he SHOULD feel bad, you have permission to give him a hard time about that for the rest of his life.

    Post # 6
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @ktisthatbees: I know. And I do. It’s like the gift that keeps on giving 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @KatyElle: This is my husband. 1000000% I wonder if they’re related? We’re still only 11 weeks into this but my husband has already voiced his opinions on what he will say to me if I voice that I’m in pain (we’re going natural). Something along the lines of “this is what you wanted bitch, suck it up and deal with it.” I told him he would be removed from the room to which he said, “nope, it’s my kid. I have every right to be there.” We went to the midwife and I made sure to mention what he said to me and she looked him straight in the eye and said, “If you want to act like a macho man like that while she is in labor, just keep in mind that she will be going through more pain than you will ever have to deal with in your life. If you want to act stupid and say things that will not allow her labor to progress I will remove you from the room myself.” 

    He had no clue that stress like that could actually make labor go backwards and when the midwife explained it to him, he seemed to understand. I fully expect my husband to be annoying as fck but I also appreciate that I have the right to throw him out when I want. 😀

    Post # 9
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    1667 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @firsttimemom: glad your midwife verbally slapped some sense into him. What is up with men? I’m not even close to the baby point yet, but I’ll punch Fiance in the face if he acts like this.

    Post # 10
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @firsttimemom: Not cool for your husband to say that to you. Ever. It’s harsh in my opinion. I hope you DO remove him if he says things like that to you in labor.

    Post # 11
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @ktisthatbees: Hell YES. I would seriously beat the macho man right out of my fiance if he ever suggested talking to me that way.

    Post # 12
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    1543 posts
    Bumble bee

    He was a champ. I would have made his cajones into a purse if he’d been anything but. And he knew it.

    @CorgiTales: My guess is that it’s probably edited to make them look way more annoying than they actually are.

     

    @KatyElle: The gift that keeps on giving, lol.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think it comes with the territory. Its a very stressful situation for a husband, he sees his wife in labor, in a lot of pain, he’s about to see his child for the first time and theres nothing he can do to physically help the process, or help ease the pain of it. I would be figety and annoying too. It would be almost unnatural if he was calm and completely relaxed and saying all the right things.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Mostly not, but before I got my epidural and was going through contractions, the only thing that helped was him rubbing my lower back very hard and at one point he said, “I never thought I’d say this, but I’m tired of rubbing your ass.” And I was like GET THE FUCK OUT.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @CorgiTales: I don’t want to hear anything but “yes dear” and “how can i help you” and “you are awesome.” You should write a labor handbook for the husbands. 🙂

    We have a couple months left but I’m worried about Darling Husband passing out. I don’t think he’d be obnoxious but I think he could get bored or a little freaked out at seeing me in pain – it’s got to be weird to watch someone you’re close to go thru a delivery and know there’s nothing you can really “do” to help.

    As for eating in front of me – our hospital allows no food in L&D, they said “If Mom can’t eat, neither can anyone else.”


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