(Closed) Was your Mister into the wedding planning?

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

Mr Peng wasn’t really into it and I would ahve been surprised if he was.  He was very into planning the honeymoon and worked out many of the logistics, like organizing his family and friends.  I really appreciated that.  But as far as the fun planny planning kind of stuff, he left me to my own crazy ideas.  He only spoke up when he thought something was potentially totally crazy or had the potential to be a total headache, and he was DEFINITELY right on all counts!  To me, it was the perfect amount of involvement.  And he was really great to my crazy foreign family, which was the best part of his involvement.  He makes my life easy!

Post # 4
69 posts
Worker bee

My Fiance has actually contributed more to the wedding planning process than I have! He found the church, the reception site, the caterer, the florist, designed the Save-The-Date Cards…etc… Other than my dress, I don’t know I really contributed! ahahha! I love how our planning process is a collaborative effort (he designs the Save-The-Date Cards, I pick the paper I want them printed on ahha). I’m one happy&very.very.lucky bride. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My hubs was actually pretty awesome!  He helped keeps things nice and organized, dealt with many of the vendors, and just so many other little things.  I literally could not have done it without him!

Post # 6
16 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

My fiance ‘doesnt care’ about alot of the wedding stuff- he’d be just as happy to get married in his old board shorts and a singlet πŸ™ The honeymoon interests him a bit more though . Im probably pretty happy to not have him too involved, and he has no hesitations about ringing vendors (which I hate) so thats helpful! He really just can’t see the point in some things though.

Post # 7
6 posts
  • Wedding: May 2009

MrJRS is very helpful with our planning. He keeps a wedding finances spreadsheet that he updates as we pay off vendors and other expenses, then he emails it to me so I can update it on my computer. He hasn’t been involved in looking for vendors, accessories, etc. Mainly because he works a lot, but everytime I find something I run it by him and he gives me his honest opinion. More often than not, he has different ideas and we have to compromise. But it’s okay, it shows me that he actually DOES care and isn’t trying to brush me off! I think he has just the perfect amount of "involvement." Anymore would make me feel like we’re two brides! lol!

Post # 8
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - LDS Seattle Temple & Hotel 1000

Finally a place where I can admit that my guy did almost nothing! He wrote his vows, asked his groomsmen, and coordinated for his "adopted" American families to come up, but other than that I made absolutely every decision by myself. I even planned the honeymoon!

Even though brides like me are sometimes scoffed at ("It’s not just your wedding you know!" they tell me), but if he isn’t interested, why should I force him to be?

Post # 9
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

My mister was GREAT!! He would call places, schedule things, and even took some of the tasks on himself. He would get disappointed if I made certain decisions without him. He was really sweet and said he wanted to take some stress away from me and make it the best day possible!!

Post # 10
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I have to say my fiance has been amazing. He doesn’t understand some things and thinks I am ridiculous, but has been right by my side through most of it.

 And he took COMPLETE control of music which was a big task since we needed ceremony music + cocktail hour + band + dj + sound system! Andhe is in charge of the ceremony details, since it is his church! He has become such a good little planner!

Post # 11
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Imperia Hotel (modern chic hotel)

When we started planning the wedding (1.5 years before the big day) Mr. F wasnt very helpful. Once the 1 year mark hit, it wanted to get involved… hence the reason why we changed our wedding theme.

I was happy he was interested in the little things like the centerpieces… he wanted a beautiful wedding just as much as I did. Hurray!!! I was so surprised! But extremely happy

Post # 12
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - St. Catherine of Genoa, Jin Asian Cuisine Restaurant

Um… Mr. T is generally not a planner, so I did most of he work. I still delegated smaller wedding items for him to do, like dj, and the church ceremony (since we were doing Catholic for his side of the family). While I did most of the scouting for the vendors, we mostly decided on them together. He also planned the honeymoon.

Since I usually do the planning, planning the honeymoon stressed him out a little. He was so worried I wasn’t going to have fun! Silly, Mr Toucan! πŸ˜‰

Post # 13
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

mr.beesknees was awesome.

he came through more at the end and handled so much.  Caterer/Liquor was his dept. and he also did great coordinated a lot of the small more masculine details.
finding handrolled cigars, making several ice cream cone trays (we did passed ice cream cones) etc.

Post # 14
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

My husband was SOOO helpful during the process it was hilarious.  At first I was like, "what? are you serious?" but then I embraced it.  He was so involved that he even wanted to have a say in the bridesmaid dresses. He came to the bridal shop and one of my bridesmaid was kind enough to model the two dresses that we were trying to decided between.  He critiqued the colors, styles, materials, everything. Again, it was hilarious!

Post # 15
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

My husband tried…. he really did, he just wasn’t the best at it.  I ended up giving him very specific tasks to complete (ie, call the reception site and see how many bartenders we’ll have, etc…).  Once I started doing that he was more helpful.  After the fact he told me he was just too overwhelmed to know where to start.  It was actually really funny to see how concerned he got over little details once I started making him in charge of things.

Post # 16
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My Fiance has been pretty involved in the planning process! I’m so glad that he’s there to help me and give his opinion. He brings up a good point that it is OUR wedding… not mine when i tend to get carried away.

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