(Closed) Was your mom there during the “Getting ready”?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

my mom has asked to be there, but i know she’s just going to stress me out…

Post # 4
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1820 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I had my mom and my Mother-In-Law.  It was wonderful to have both of them, plus the pictures are great.  I knew it meant a lot to them to be there, but whether you have your Mother-In-Law is up to you.  I think having your mom is pretty traditional.  (I would be surprised if you get responses saying that people didn’t, unless they don’t have good relationships.)

Post # 5
Hostess
16196 posts
Honey Beekeeper

My mom and Mother-In-Law were both there!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Haha, yeah, she was there. And she was late. We lost picture time because we waited for her to get there before I put on the dress. Mother-In-Law, GMIL, and SIL were all there, and my mom was getting her hair done. *shakes head*

Post # 7
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5797 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

My mom was there until we had to kick her out because she wouldn’t stop crying. I’m not really close to Future Mother-In-Law (and she prob would have been uncomfortable) so she was not there. I couldn’t imagine my mom not being there but we are really close.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I want both there…. but I think my mom would stress me out.  I don’t want to offend my mom by just having Future Mother-In-Law there (I think it would be a nice bonding experience for us) but also, my Future Mother-In-Law is already like my mom so maybe I would not have either?  I am not sure.

Post # 9
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5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i don’t see a way of me being able to tell my mom not to be there.

Post # 11
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5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it would be best if I get ready without my mom and Future Mother-In-Law. I’m an easily irrated person and I think the more people there the more it will stress me out!!

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

My mom was a stress case and was concerned about getting ready herself.  I knew this about her personality and so I chose to get ready while she was getting ready.  It didn’t bother me that she wasn’t there to help get me in my dress, because I don’t think it would have really mattered.  She first saw me after I was in my dress and we took pictures prior.

My mantra for that day was to not worry about anyone else but me and Darling Husband.  So, I did what felt best for me (which was to have other friends help me into my dress).  I have no regrets about how it played out – because my mom ended up seeing me before the ceremony and we got time together – which was important.  

I did not have my Mother-In-Law with me – she was with Darling Husband.

If you aren’t sure – what about just talking to your mom about it?  Tell her you are thinking through how the pre-cermony getting ready events/timeline will take place and ask her if she has any expectations or desires about the pre-events that you should take into consideration.

 

Post # 14
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1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Mrs. Meowerson:  We are in the same boat on this.

I am close to my mom.  I talk to her daily.  I live in the same neighborhood as her.  I DO NOT want her there while I’m getting ready.  She is doing her best to make the day *all about her* and I don’t want to deal with her that morning.  I would rather enjoy myself with my sister.  I just haven’t worked out how to effect that desire.  lol

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsLulu:  omg same exact situation here.  i love my mom and talk to her every day, too (which apparently is not common with most people haha).  she drives me freaking nuts though.

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