Post # 1
I was reading this thread: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/washington-post-article-on-marrying-young.
The Washington Post put out a rebuttal by Andrew Cherlin: http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/27/AR2009042702100.html?hpid=opinionsbox1
I don’t think I have enough information to gather an opinion regarding both of these editorial pieces. I feel like both are missing information: qualitative factors over just the stats. There will always be successful marriages in every situation/income level/educational level. Maybe we should be looking at those factors over the ones that lead to divorce…
Post # 4
I’m not sure that the original article was "lamenting" over women not marrying as young. And I don’t think that Regnerus was putting "blame" on women, but merely stating his observations. I could understand if he was totally ignorant, but everyone sees facts in a different light.
I think both bring up some valid points, and I also agree with you, blightygirl, that we should be looking at other factors.
But the rebuttal is also right in that women did get married earlier for reasons relating to children.
Post # 5
Thanks for posting the counterpoint. I was looking for one when I read the original article.
Post # 6
whew…thanks for posting. I was really irritated with the article yesterday…my stock goes down as I get older…yesh!!!
Post # 7
Thanks for posting this follow up!
Post # 8
Thanks for posting this. Here’s yet another perspective (from a more left-leanign source):
So now I’m frustrated with both the original and the rebuttal. I think the first column was naive about finances and people’s ability to support themselves (even in happy marriages that stay together, things happen). I think the rebuttal is a little flippant about how difficult it can be for older women to conceive and how heart-rending that can be. I would say the majority of older (30+) women I know have had trouble conceiving (not all, but most). But I think that it’s very unusual to get married while pursuing advanced education. It works before, a friend of mine got married and started law school 1 month later; and it works well after, like me and several of my friends. But during is pretty tough. And I think, w.r.t. kids, that’s the biggest issue. Almost all the students in my PhD program who were married had kids in school (unless they divorced which was sadly too common). It makes a lot of sense, b/c no one care if you take an extra yeear in grad school, but you’re productivity is heavily scrutinized afterward. But if you didn’t meet the guy before you started school, the odds are pretty high that you won’t be getting married until after (I know couples who did, but seriously, I could not have even contemplated it my life was so crazy).
Anyway, I know marriage is about more than just kids, but I think when it comes to age that’s one of the biggest concerns. And I think it’s really hard b/c no choice is ideal, and it’s harder on women b/c of biology. I feel like both these columns are glossing over that reality.